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DS(13) upset about death

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Cheerfullydesperate · 11/01/2020 22:48

My poor DS is just home from a week's school trip abroad from which he called us every day upset about death. Started with a close sports coach who died young the other week, and news that my DF, to whom DS is very close, will need open heart surgery soon. However, he's also upset about his own mortality, musing that his life has gone so fast so far, he doesn't know what will happen after death and is therefore afraid to die, and doesn't want anything to change in his life, as it's so good just now.

Any tips on how to deal with this? He has been really upset, crying a lot since coming home. We have had some good chats and hugs of course, but if I gently state that everybody dies, it starts him off again. He's worried that he's always going to feel this way, and TBH so I am. We have had his favourite food, movie, games etc but I wondered if anyone had any ideas on how to talk about the subject in a way that will ease his fears and move him on?

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ReallyLilyReally · 12/01/2020 16:48

13 seems a little old to have death dawn on him for the first time - are there other anxieties at play here perhaps? Might it be worth setting up a chat with the school counsellor so that he has an impartial place to voice his worries, and a professional ear to guide him through it?

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