Ds 15 need help with boyfriend trouble

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Ds 15 has had boyfriend for 6 months. He is now basically asking my ds to choose between him and his friends and making him feel guilty anytime he is with his friends .
I’ve spoken with my ds about how this isn’t healthy and he needs to have his own friends not sure what else to say/do for the best? Don’t want to keep going on about it to him as worried I will push him away and he won’t speak honestly to me.

Could you find some online resources on healthy/unhealthy relationships that your DS can then look at in his own time? If the bf is at the same school perhaps have a chat with DS's tutor or HOY. This could be a great lesson for DS in having firm boundaries and not remaining in a relationship when someone is starting to show signs of being controlling. You can also be positive and encouraging about DS seeing his friends so he can feel confident that he is doing the right thing.

You just need to keep reiterating to him that nobody who cares about him would make him choose. It's unhealthy to spend all of your

Sorry posted too soon...

It's unhealthy to spend all your time and emotion on one person and if they do split up, he will need his friends.

You can advise him but ultimately he has to make his own mistakes. I think you shouldn't push the advice too much as you risk alienating him and he won't come to you for help if things go wrong.

Thanks for the replies. I have spoken about it to him the last few days about my concerns so think I might try concentrating on getting him to spend some time with friends as pp suggested. I will also have a look online to see if there’s anything he can read about healthy/unhealthy relationships