DS17 - and bedroom smelling of weed

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He has just started sixth form.

Out quite a lot recently. Room smelling of weed, sometimes his clothes etc. He doesn't deny he's tried it at a party or whatever - but says its because mostly he's around people who smoke it or on occasion he is in the same room with them.

Anyway, sick of the horrible smell, it sometimes seeps out into corridor, though I have to say I have got a sensitive sense of smell.

Nothing I can do though is there? What do you think?

You could put up a smoke alarm in his bedroom too. You can get mini ones on Amazon.

Go into his room. Follow the smell, and you will find his stash.

Well, things have moved on....

He isn’t smoking it in the home as it would be impossible for him to do this without me knowing.

However he is definitely smoking it. Probably smoking it a lot, I am now beginning to realise. I also realise he is a minimiser and a liar. He is most likely storing it in his bedroom somewhere. I don’t want him at home anymore, other issues as well, bad attitude and behaviour. Can’t write any more. It seems to me his and my choices are limited if they don’t want to help themselves. He is aware that weed fries your brain, has always been quite against it. Now this.

Sorry to hear your update. Hope things manage to work themselves out and that it's just a short lived phase.
Good luck.

Sorry you’re in this situation. I can’t offer any advice but I just wanted to say it irritates me when people say it’s a harmless drug etc.
My ex boyfriend was fit, healthy, active and motivated with drive and ambition. We’d been together about a year when he started smoking weed occasionally as at the time most of his friends did it too. Occasional smoking became regular until he was smoking skunk through the day, every day. He completely changed as a person, he lost his drive and enthusiasm, he would spend all day in bed and stay up most of the night smoking and watching tv. He failed his year at uni three years in a row, swapping and changing courses each year, racking up the debt but never going to lectures. He became overweight and his diet was terrible as he just had no drive. He wouldn’t accept that smoking weed was an issue. We split up after 7 years as I couldn’t deal with it anymore. I’d found out he’d taken cocaine as well and I didn’t want to be a part of it. I was ready to get a house and settle down and he said he was too but there was no way I was going to commit to anything until he sorted his problem out, which he didn’t.
I know the majority of people can have the odd joint at a party or whatever and nothing else will come of it, but I hate it when I see it being brushed off something that isn’t harmful when it can be really detrimental.

Thank you both. I agree with you Night.

I'm sorry to hear that Op. I was that person two years ago - I literally followed my nose until I found his stash in his bedroom. I realised that the talks we'd had prior to that re drugs had consisted of him lying to me. It's been a bloody hard couple of years, and we are not out the other end yet, but in his case the weed was only a part of what was going on with him - stuff which we are trying to work through still.

You say you don't want him at home - but do you really have any other options?

Where do you plan for him to go ?

Probably not smoking it at home, the smells goes quite quickly. Sounds more like he has some stashed away which does smell

Where does he get the money?