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Found an E tablet

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Lifeispantsatthemoment · 30/12/2019 13:37

I’ve found an ecstasy tablet last
Night in my DS bag. He promised he doesnt take drugs and this was a one off to get a pill for someone else for tomorrow night. But I also found a vicks nasal inhaler (they are linked as paraphernalia) and he’s been having issues sleeping etc. I’ve ordered a drug test kit which will arrive tomorrow. What do I do if it’s positive?

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MyMessyHouse · 30/12/2019 21:41

Hi I'm so sorry didn't want to read and run. I'm in a very similar situation and came on here for advise!
I have a 16 year old and have just found drugs in his room, I'm at a loss for what to do!
I hate this, being a parent of a teen, it's so fucking hard.
I hope someone comes along soon to help.in the meantime here's a virtual hug from me to you.

BrokenWing · 31/12/2019 00:32

I haven't been in this situation (yet!) but if /when I am I have heard the FRANK helpline are very good at advice.

Even if the drug test is negative I would not believe for 1 minute he has all that stuff and hasn't used and would proceed in the belief he has. Having that in your home loses him all the benefits of reasonable doubt and trust. Hope FRANK can help, let us know what they advise.

DecemberSnow · 31/12/2019 00:33

How old is he?

You are going to drug test your son?

MustardScreams · 31/12/2019 00:33

How does anyone do ecstasy with a vicks inhaler?!!

You either crush it and snort (not put it in an inhaler) or crush it and put it in a bomb, or swallow the tablet.

Are you sure it’s ecstasy?

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Lifeispantsatthemoment · 31/12/2019 07:57

My son is just 17 and yes, while he is living here and I am paying for everything including mobile phone (a new one), he hasn’t got a holiday job, gets a weekly allowance and he’s in full time education then I feel I have the right as his parent to test him. However, it would appear I don’t need to now as he confessed at 1am last night. If you google the vicks thing it’s not using the inhaler to take the tablet it’s used to give you a much bigger effect apparently if you snort Vicks at the same time. I’m not sure where to go from here as the reasons he gave for taking drugs are quite irrational in my eyes and he tells me he doesn’t drink alcohol when he takes them so that’s apparently ok and showing responsible behaviour!!! More chats today I think as he has got to realise how dangerous tablets and drugs can be - especially when the news yesterday had the story of the boy who took an E with rat poison in it

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daffyducked · 31/12/2019 08:07

I'd get him to watch and read all the bad press about drugs. Everything I could get my hands on.

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Lifeispantsatthemoment · 31/12/2019 08:27

I got him to watch the Leah Betts film yesterday - it came to the end and he said ‘yes mum that’s really sad but she drank alcohol with it so that’s why she died’

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MontyBowJangles · 31/12/2019 08:33

I did loads of E when I was between 17 - 21. Bloody loved it. I'm now a responsible mother with a husband and job etc and it didn't "lead" onto harder drugs for me or any of my friends who took it.

If or when this happens to me I'll make sure they are taking all sensible precautions like staying with at least one or two reliable and decent friends who they can trust (in case they go on a whitey /panic/hallucinate badly etc), sip water regularly (Leah Betts drank far too much and drowned her brain if I remember correctly?) and don't mix with alcohol or drive.

As long as he's only doing it recreationally on occasion I don't see the problem. It's part of growing up.

If he starts doing it during the daytime or during the week, or alone etc then it's time to worry.

I bet some of the thrill will have been taken out of it now his Mum knows anyway! Wink

novacaneforthepain · 31/12/2019 08:37

I think most teenagers do drugs rather than drink these days

moctodtensmum · 31/12/2019 08:45

Leah Betts was so long ago and for most teens I imagine it sounds like a history story. The fact you have to go back so far may even make them believe it’s a very rare occurrence. You need to show how often problems occur.

Our niece ended up in life support three years ago after taking MDMA. It was a bad batch and she went unconscious, started to vomit and inhaled the vomit. She would have died except that the person her friend ran to when it all went wrong happened to be a paramedic. The hospital docs said that if she’d been found a minute later, or by someone less well trained then she would have died. Even with her good luck she was on a ventilator for 72 hours and we all thought she might be brain damaged.

CooCooCoo · 31/12/2019 08:53

As long as he's only doing it recreationally on occasion I don't see the problem. It's part of growing up

Is it fuck!!!!

Great how you dodged a bullet in your younger days but your advice is totally irresponsible.

No wonder drug use is increasing when you’ve got parents about with that sort of attitude.

BrokenWing · 31/12/2019 09:19

As long as he's only doing it recreationally on occasion I don't see the problem. It's part of growing up.

MontyBowJangles, I and most of my friends/family, managed to grow up just fine without resorting to or supporting the vile industry and supply chain of A class drugs. A class drugs that you have no idea what they have been cut with and what you are putting in your system. A class drugs that can result in a criminal record or if caught with expulsion from education or sacked from work.

You were lucky, let's hope your ds isn't one of the next MDMA stats (Between 2013-18, 269 people died in the UK after using MDMA).

Why don't you pop over to the other thread in teenagers and tell the mum whose son is having terrifying psychotic episodes after smoking cannabis that it is just fine to have a smoke, it's all part of growing up.Hmm

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Lifeispantsatthemoment · 31/12/2019 10:34

I refuse to take what you say as good advice - kids are dying because of shit put into pills

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Lifeispantsatthemoment · 31/12/2019 10:35

Thank you - I feel the same

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Lifeispantsatthemoment · 31/12/2019 10:36

Sorry, new to this mums net thing and my replies are not under the right comments

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Karlski · 31/12/2019 12:49

Sadly Ecstasy/MDMA is becoming a more recreational drug than weed these days.

It's also more susceptible to being cut with crap and other drugs, and for that reason I don't think it's worth taking. HOWEVER, his friends are into it, and he is part of the group, and it's part of their culture, so if you want to intervene then you can try, but I really don't think you'll have any effect until he's not associating with the same friend circle. His friends reassurance and support of him taking it will outweigh any advice you try to give.

I actually wish my parents tried some drugs in their youth, rather than just listening to the news and talking with other conservative parents, because they had no proper advice to give me at all, just a load of earache which in turn only had the opposite effect.

BrokenWing · 31/12/2019 13:08

The problems with the theory that parents that took drugs in their youth can give 'proper advice' Hmm is they are the ones, like the muppet above actively encouraging it, that are lucky and dodged the bullet so don't see the problems.

The ones that are impacted by it and want their dc to avoid the same will give out the same advice than a non user.

Also, just because a parent didn't use A class drugs in their youth does not mean they did not party and make mistakes or were conservative. It just meant they were able to do it without resorting to drugs.

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Lifeispantsatthemoment · 31/12/2019 13:27

I agree with you - in the 60s and 70s my parents had things called purple hearts - amphetamine type things - but they were manufactured by drug companies so were in a sense regulated in what they contained. In my teenage years and early 20s (late 80s and early 90s) the most we has was illicit fags behind bike sheds, and booze was the thing more. I just don’t get the whole drug scene now and people being so blasé about pills that can kill because they contain poison or other crap cut into it. Social media has a lot to answer for, that’s how the deals and arrangements are made. In my day to organise anything like a party it took weeks via dial up telephone, not the seconds it takes to have a group chat on snapshit or whatscrap

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