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Bag left behind in shop

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hhsa · 29/12/2019 16:39

Went shopping today and 16 year old bought 2 tops for £36 from topman. Went in JD sports and he left the bag there. Came home and realised. So upset should have held the bag myself. Rang jd sports they saying no bag handed in. How can I let it go??? Always hold shopping myself but today thought its hus shopping and he can hold it.

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Mummyoflittledragon · 29/12/2019 17:19

He says that i forgot about the bag
For this type of comment and blaming you, I’d make him wait for replacements. Accidents happen. I once left a brand new purchase on the tube. No one handed it in. Luckily also not an expensive purchase but very upsetting all the same.

DamsonDress · 29/12/2019 17:19

It happened to me (think bag fell out of bottom of pram). Full of clothes for my daughter £100 +. Phoned the shop we were in but it was never handed in. Just had to let it go.

Try ringing again tomorrow but chances are it's gone. A shame for your son but he'll likely not make that mistake again. I know I'm SO careful with my bags now.

It happens.

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hhsa · 29/12/2019 17:19

I bet the thief will take the tops back to topman and say they lost their receipt and what to exchange

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Ilikewinter · 29/12/2019 17:20

You can ask them but they wont be able to show you it, all they can say is that yes someone walked off with it. You would have to report the stolen bag to the police and they would have to then request a copy of it if they were to investigate the theft...of which they wont of course. I would just let it go to be honest, i think theres zero chance of you getting it back.

Winterdaysarehere · 29/12/2019 17:22

2 Xmas's ago my adult dd was holding my bags and put them down.
Over £700.... An honest cleaner at Primark handed them in..
Not everyone is dishonest.

Susiebluesy · 29/12/2019 17:22

Aw I’d be really upset too 😕

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hhsa · 29/12/2019 17:23

Thank u for all ur replies. I suppose I should be grateful that it was £36 loss and not more.

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Spitsandspots · 29/12/2019 17:24

I know someone who put their bag of clothes down to pack the items they were buying in Tesco and some chancer bent down and picked the bag up & walked off.
It’s a (expensive) lesson. Some people will take anything that isn’t nailed down. I don’t know how they sleep at night.

strawberry2017 · 29/12/2019 17:25

Put it on local Facebook pages, that usually gets kind Samaritans finding things for you. X

Saucery · 29/12/2019 17:25

It’s horrible when that happens. I’ve been the thoughtless teenager and the parent of a thoughtless teenager who has just left a bag somewhere so I can see both sides. I wouldn’t replace the tops if they aren’t absolutely essential, it’s more likely to stick in his mind next time that some lowlife will be glad to steal them if unattended.
I remember seeing a man scoping out bags during a busy shopping trip at Christmas in our nearest city a few years ago. Everyone else looking for bargains, he was looking down at bags on the floor and purses sticking out of handbags, quite noticeably. Because some people are scrotes and you fell foul of one of them today, unfortunately.

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hhsa · 29/12/2019 17:25

I was just hoping that someone would have given the bag to a staff at jd sports. Or atleast the bag was still there where it was left. But hurtful thinking someone walked out with it purposely.

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Saucery · 29/12/2019 17:27

Someone else seeing the bag first might have handed it in. I know I would have. That nice person wasn’t there today, though.

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hhsa · 29/12/2019 17:33

I suppose u forget that everyone is like yourself and would keep hands off other peoples things.

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maddiemookins16mum · 29/12/2019 17:37

Did you used to carry his School bag right up until Year 6 too.
Honestly OP, let it go. He’ll know better next time.

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hhsa · 29/12/2019 17:39

When we go shopping I tend to carry the bags as I spend my money but today I thought well it's his tops so he can hold them.

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hhsa · 29/12/2019 17:40

You are all right bcos in this way he will learn to take care next time he is out. And not let his belongings out of sight again.

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FamilyOfAliens · 29/12/2019 17:41

I suppose u forget that everyone is like yourself and would keep hands off other peoples things.

Really? I never forget that some people steal. How do you forget something like that?

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hhsa · 29/12/2019 17:45

I know people steal but I wouldn't think someone would in a shop where u r going to buy something

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BuzzShitbagBobbly · 29/12/2019 17:54

What's this really about, hhsa?

You are disproportionately sad about your son's carelessness, and acting like it's your fault?

Why aren't you annoyed at him for being so thoughtless? Even a bit? a lot

Waterlemon · 29/12/2019 17:55

I had a bag of shopping stolen last Christmas, containing over £150 worth! Some pjs and designer tops.

I’m usually on my guard, but put the bags down next to my feet to pick up an item on display, then a man that was browsing near me, suddenly ran out the store. I thought he’d stolen something off the shelf, but as I picked my bags back up, realised the John Lewis bag was missing, then remembered the man Was holding a JL bag as he left the store. I stupidly left the receipt in the bag - and for once had paid cash, so he could have gone back to the store and got a refund!

Tried to Run after and look for him on the high street, but it was far too busy.

There are plenty of opportunists out there at this time of the year, just waiting!

Your going to have to let it go - hard I know. I was fuming/annoyed/upset for days. Poor DH didn’t get a present last year as I couldn’t afford to replace his gift, and the nieces/nephews got books instead of the lovely PJs I’d bought.

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hhsa · 29/12/2019 18:01

Buzzshitbagbobbly
I'm regretting the moment I told him to hold the bag.

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hhsa · 29/12/2019 18:06

So sorry to hear about peoples losses. I really I'm upset bcos I never lose anything and I'm always careful when out and about. So didnt expect this but then again it was my Son's fault not mine

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BuzzShitbagBobbly · 29/12/2019 18:06

I'm regretting the moment I told him to hold the bag.

Yes but what I mean is, why are you so personally distressed and handwringing about it? It was two tops from a high street shop, and you said earlier the cost wasn't an issue.

"Regrets" like you are posting are for things that really matter, not irritation at a careless teenager who is old enough to know better (bet he doesn't leave his phone anywhere like that!)

ch3rrycola · 29/12/2019 18:08

My mum would have gone mental at me and would have said you'd have been more careful if you had to earn that money. And she'd be right!

HouseworkAvoider10 · 29/12/2019 18:14

Seeing as he tried to frame you for this, I'd leave him go without.
That'll learn him.

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