I’m sorry this is going to be very negative but I’m completely out of options.
6 years of behaviour problems from son (Now 17). 4 rounds at CAMHS with no diagnosis. 2 emergency crisis team referrals where he is discharged to CAMHS and will not engage.
Behaviour has escalated over this period, everything from complete disrespect and rudeness, refusing to follow even basic rules. He disappears for up to 3 days at a time. I always find out where he is (from his friends) but have to wait until he comes back.
He says it won’t happen again but he will continue to be disrespectful from the following day.
Not in school and can’t keep a job but compulsively lies about attending both until he was caught out.
He has stolen from everyone in the house.
He has meltdowns where he is verbally abusive and physically threatening, although only objects actually get hit. This escalated last week where he targeted my 16 year old and made her so upset she ran from the house. He backed her into a corner and hit a wall near her face.
When he had these meltdowns he threatens suicide (which I always take seriously) but will act like nothing happened 10 mins later.
I sent him to live with his dad for 4 months. Behaviour continued and his dad kicked him out.
I saved him from going to a hostel but now I am bitterly regretting it.
I don’t know what to do other than arrange for his to go to the council for housing (which he won’t do either).
I’m on the verge of a breakdown. My daughters and partner are suffering. I should have called the police.