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Dd is acting weird and asking for money alot

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Neverhavetoomuchglitter · 22/12/2019 10:47

You immediately think drugs don't you? Or smoking. That was my 1st thought. Ironically I would say we have a really good relationship. She is very open with me and tells me loads of personal stuff. She's told me she's vaped in the past, tried weed, I let her have some alcohol with us so no real drinking issue. This is why I don't get it. She's in a group of friends and they almost all smoke. She's offered it all the time and has told me what's the point of starting now as its expensive and she leaves school next June anyway. So I dont think it's that. I've asked her about weed. She says she does it every few months or so if the situation arises. Never appears to be secretive about it. Now she's been really moody since Thurs. Flying off the handle and definitely acting different. She was really mad and tearful Fri night. That much so we went out for a walk in the dark. She just said she didn't know why she felt like she did no reason for it.
Yesterday after I had already given her money she called and said she had lost her bus ticket and I needed to transfer more money, a tenner. It didn't add up. I gave her a fiver and she ended up leaving her friends and storming home.
Last night something else occurred to me. She's been getting awful migraines and has had Syndol on and off. Contains codeine. I have always trusted her to have these with her incase she needs them at school. She ended up telling me she has taken them every day last week. 2 a day. Except on Fri when she was extra vile. I have now thrown them away and said I will help her etc etc. Thought that was the problem but getting up this morning her clothes are in the bathroom and a fiver was on the side. So after her begging me to give her more money she had it anyway? Why would she need more. All previous money is transferred online and I have access to her account and even have the card. She uses apple pay on her phone only and whatever bits of cash she has. I'm wondering if there's something else going on and the Syndol is an excuse? Help!

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BillHadersNewWife · 22/12/2019 11:35

I would bet smoking OP....a fiver's not enough for cigarettes is it? Have you smelled her clothing?

sproutsgalore · 22/12/2019 11:39

Could she have got in with a bad lot of friends? Someone may be forcing her to hand over cash.

Neverhavetoomuchglitter · 22/12/2019 12:16

Her group of friends aren't exactly great role models but she's only been in their crowd since the start of yr 11. All throughout high school shes struggled and been miserable and is now happy so difficult situation.
I dont think she's smoking as she defo doesn't smell of it.

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mcmen05 · 22/12/2019 15:30

My dd would go for food then go somewhere else for ice cream
Then go for tea or coffee could add up to 15 a day. Might eat snacks in between.
She has a part time job so it's her own money.
Could some of her friends be bullying her to pay for drink or drugs.

BaubleTheLumpOfCoal · 22/12/2019 15:37

I'm thinking that if it's the codeine, she may be trying to buy something like nurofen plus or paramol which I believe both cost more than £5 a pack.

Otherwise, has she fallen into the wrong crowd? Could be owing money or lending money to people.

Another thought (albeit very far-fetched) could she be pregnant?
The sudden mood swings, the tears and anger, the secrets.
Although, aside from pregnancy tests, I'm unsure what she'd need money for.

Trying to think back when I was that age and the only things I needed money for were cigarettes and alcohol.

Obviously, my thoughts are all quite drastic and it may just be a nothing.
Hope you get to the bottom of it OP. Thanks

Neverhavetoomuchglitter · 22/12/2019 18:37

Thank you. I've chatted with her again and she insists there's nothing wrong. She's still quite volatile but I suppose that's nothing new! Hopefully some family time will help.

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