How to lift the mood in an unhappy house due to teen DD?

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DD 15 is a nightmare. Constant calls from school and hanging out with an undesirable group of peers. It is having a huge impact on our family life- me, DH and 3 siblings. I am cross all the time and fed up of the constant arguing and calls/meetings with school. DH said last night that if we don't try to lift the mood in the house, it will have a long term impact on all of us. I know he is right but i don't know how to do it. Any suggestions? I'm sooo tired.

I really feel for you. I was getting calls from school re missing homework for my dd doing her Gcse I was sick to the back teeth of it as my dd would say she had teacher would say no.
I went to parent teacher meeting told her face to face not to ring me and not to hassle my dd about it just leave her be as it was affecting her mental health and mine the constant battle about homework.
i haven't got an email or phone call since start of November.
I know people will say i am giving my dd easy way out but i am not
I get her to do a lot of study at home.
She has really turned a corner since the teacher stopped hassling her.
My dd also got hit at school last year and Principal said it was because she was hanging out with a bad crowd. I really don't think a Principal should reference any student as bad crowd.
You have to let some things go when they are a teenager or you will stress yourself there is another thread worth a read about teenagers affecting our mental health a good read.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/teenagers/3711135-Thread-three-holding-on-to-the-end-of-the-rope-life-in-the-bunker-with-the-PoTs-where-parenting-a-teen-is-adversely-affecting-your-mental-health

I feel your pain. My 16 year old son is a complete nightmare at the moment. My husband, 11 year old daughter and I are living in a really unhappy house. My son has been abusive to all of us, tells me I'm not his Mom anymore and threatens to leave home. We are all so unhappy, it's just so horrible. People tell me he'll come through the other side, but I'm not so sure

Can you compartmentalise?
Focus on what you can do.
If you do it, you've succeeded and can think about other stuff.
Success is about knowing you did what you could, not the outcome.