Drugs in daughters bag

[ChristmasTree999]

Hello all. I’ve been on here 10+ years but namechanged for this in the hope that someone can help. My dd is 17.
Today I found a small bag of white powder in one of her bags. I messaged her immediately- she says it is ketamine, but that it’s not hers, it belongs to her friend. I obviously was not born yesterday and do not believe her. I’ve got rid of it and told her how disappointed and disgusted I am by what I found. I’m absolutely furious that she could be so stupid. She has apologised and is currently begging me not to tell her step dad and the school. I’ve read the advise on the Frank website, but can anyone offer some advise on how to deal with this? I feel completely out of my depth here.

Just to add - I also found a joint in her drawer a few weeks back so this is not the first occurrence of bringing drugs into the house.

It’s the op’s house.

I don’t give a fuck if the daughter is 40 if op doesn’t want drugs in her house then that’s how it is.

Would the threat of telling her step dad or school stop her?

You absolutely should tell her step dad and school. This isnt a one off and what you've found is likely the tip of the iceberg. Do you have an under 18s drug or substance misuse team in your area that she could speak to? Has anything happened to trigger this like life changes, bad friendship group etc?

I have never done drugs but I did used to carry them so other kids didnt get into trouble
Just throwing it out there that it is possible she is truthful.

Don't tell the school. Getting her chucked out of school isn't going to help your DD's future or your relationship with her.

lmao did u not read my comment? middle age white bitches be wildin lmfaoo

Do one love.

She is17. All you can do is insist she doesn't bring them.into your house. It is unlikely you as re going to stop her doing them.

I know quite a lot about K - the "good" and bad. My friendship group got really into it in my 20s. (I took it at first but then went off it. I know it well as a drug and I've seen some extremes through my friends).

It's late now but if you want to know anything about it please do ask.

(Now middle aged and very respectable!)

Zombie thread

@wakemewhenitsallover,
My DS seems to take ketamine sometimes. He is only 15 it’s a massive worry. What kind of advice can I give him (apart from not to, which of course he won’t listen to).
He’s always sniffing and blowing his nose, is this connected do you think?

I'd tell step dad and school. If it's not first time she obviously doesn't see the danger and is willing to explore different drugs.
She won't stop unless you do something about it.

Maybe the school might be able to put you in touch with some organisations. X