Advice on teens and romance please

[Mamancecile]

Hello all,

My 14 year-old daughter (currently in Year 10) has been having the odd «boyfriend» over the last year. She chats to boys on Whatsap who are friends or boyfriend. One dumped her last month and she was really cross about it for a few days.
It looks that there may be another one on the scene although I am not sure he is a friend or «more».

My daughter has a nice and good group of friends but this whole boyfriend situation scares me a tad.

She asked me yesterday if she could bring a boy back here after school on Friday :/

Please give me tips and advice. I feel quite at a loss.

Firstly don't get scared, it's normal. I would suggest that it's time for house rules and a mother daughter chat about relationships and sex. Saying no just drives them to secrecy so be open is my advice. I booked my dd in for a chat with the nurse about contraception when I saw her relationships changing from holding hands to something more intimate.

Invite always ime.
Kitchen /lounge.
Invite for tea.
Let him see your dd has rules /boundaries...
His behaviour /attitude in her home turf will allow her to confidently assess him also...
Ime..
3x dd's
1 of 30 and 2 teens!!

I have had a chat with her about sex a while ago but I think I should do another one now again.
I m pretty certain it hasn t come to that but she is getting more intimate with those lads.

For me it is about facing it that she is a budding adult and i do find it quite daunting!

It's nice that she's bringing him round to meet you, think of it that way.

Yes Iswhois, I agree with you. I have looked this subject up online and some mums recommend leaving bedroom door ajar if dd with bf by themselves. I am going to do that I think although I know for a fact my daughter will look at me funny and give me earache probably when I mention it later.