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DD17 smoking weed

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PartyLITS1999 · 22/11/2019 21:30

At wits end now. DD is almost 18 and in upper sixth doing 3 A levels. Has been smoking week for a year now. We have tolerated it but have a rule that we don’t want her smoking it in the house, which she abides by. She smokes it with friends. The problem is her mental state. She seems disinterested in her college work and had a poor report recently. She is very bright and had been doing very well. She has suffered on and off with depression since she was 14, and still does. Now we wonder if the weed is fuelling her depression as she is often really down. She has difficultly sleeping at night and then goes to sleep after college. We have talked to her about the long term mental impacts of weed, but she insists it is helping her understand her feelings and helping her open up, as she tends to bottle things up. Me and DP have both smoked it in the past, but never regularly. She was seeing a counsellor at college since September but that has finished now. We are so worried about where she will end up. Please help!

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Candle1000 · 22/11/2019 21:35

I am in the same boat with my dd21 . I’m positive that Her mental health has suffered because of it , I don’t care what people say about it being harmless. I have begged her to stop and have even sent her back out of the house if she comes in stinking of it. I can’t stand how it affects her. I wish I had advice on how to help you but I don’t Sad

MoaningMinniee · 22/11/2019 21:38

[hugs] It isn't harmless, despite what all the apologists might say. Wish I had any positive advice.

PartyLITS1999 · 22/11/2019 21:45

Thanks for your replies. We’ve shown her articles about how it affects teenage brains - meant to be more damaging than alcohol at this age. But she won’t have it that it could harm her. She says she doesn’t smoke much, just a few puffs while her friends have much more. DP wants to stop giving her pocket money in case that is making it too easy, so she will need to ask for money and explain what it’s for. I’m not sure this is a good idea, as it is just telling her that we don’t trust her. She did have a waitressing job which she stopped in early summer.

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Candle1000 · 22/11/2019 21:51

I would absolutely stop her money, don’t fund the habit and don’t worry about trust , you don’t trust her not to smoke it do you ?

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