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My teen has just got his first job!

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Vegheaven · 20/11/2019 10:13

It was an ordeal getting here. What he thought would be so easy - he'd done really well in his GCSEs, he was known to be clever - employers would be tripping over themselves to give him a job - wouldn't they?

He started in July - took a couple of weeks to write his CV.
He did an online interview questionnaire - his responses were overly honest (he has aspergers) but typical teenager - he couldn't be enthusiastic enough about shelf stacking, so they rejected him. Went into a few local shops - he couldn't believe how nervous he was, literally shaking going into the first one, better in the second and third, a pro by the forth and with that over and done with he waited...nothing came back.

Realised his CV was wrong, came home fixed.

Made some more applications online and in person, no response from any of them...I worried about how he was coming across especially when he refused to phone a takeaway about a job because he didn't want to appear too keen - warning bells!!! Spoke to him about appearing arrogant - to be honest we argued - he's not great at taking advice and he wasn't happy but something hit home and his attitude changed.

Last night someone was meant to get back to him and they didn't so he phoned them and went for the interview and got the job.

What a process though, he has learned so much and he hasn't even started, I'm impressed with his resilience - he kept going through all the rejections, honing his approach - it's taken 4 months and at times it's been stressful and things have been tense between us - it's been hard watching him screw up and trying not to say anything (and failing at that too many times).

This parenting malarkey doesn't get any easier! But some days you win!

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mcmen05 · 20/11/2019 10:35

That's a lovely ending good luck in his job.

pumpkinpie01 · 20/11/2019 10:38

Brilliant ! Well done to him not getting despondent!

Exp1etiveDeLighted · 20/11/2019 10:40

Well done to him!

NaomiFromMilkShake · 20/11/2019 10:41

Oh well done him, bravo.

Angrymouse · 20/11/2019 10:42

Brilliant! You must be so proud. Well done to your son

tomatosoup4 · 20/11/2019 10:44

Well done him, it took 12 months for my dd to get a job she went to tonnes of interviews and was rejected but still carried on and has finally got one.

Vegheaven · 20/11/2019 12:30

Thanks all! The school would really prefer if they didn't get a part-time job and focus instead on their A' Levels, I understand why they think that but I disagree entirely, ds is my second dc to get a part-time job.

Dd got one almost immediately but she felt so weird working with very much older adults, she thought they'd never want to chat with her but a few weeks into the job, they started to rib at her for various things - all good natured, she really feels part of the team now.

I think getting a job really helps them develop confidence, social skills and a bit of independence...more of the soft skills that will help them when they go off to Uni.

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mcmen05 · 20/11/2019 12:44

The ones that work probably study more as the ones that don't get part time jobs spend alot off time on phones or out with friends. Hope he enjoys it.

aibutohavethisusername · 21/11/2019 15:15

Congratulations to your DS.

My DD is in Year 13 and has had a job for almost a year now.

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