DD 14 has been seeing her bf for a year now and doesn’t show any signs of moving on. Her bf also 14 is a very volatile character, seems angry a lot. He always seems to have to have his own way, and can come across as quite controlling. Often I have gone into her room when I hear raised voices.
He’s not a good influence on her, is badly behaved in school and currently on a reduced time table. He’s regularly excluded for disruptive behaviour and often upsets DD by always putting his friends first and making her feel unwanted. But then other times he treats her like she’s the most important person in the whole world.
I think he may have ADHD and I know his younger brother has a diagnosis of ASD. Despite his behavioural problems he seems to come from a well to do family. Lives in an expensive part of town, mum and dad work and drive nice cars etc. In fact his mum is some kind of teacher/tutor in a school in the next town. (Not sure of exact job but I know she’s not a class room teacher). I’m surprised as I’ve often tried to contact his mum about my concerns but she is quite aloof and dismissive, and sometimes won’t communicate with me at all, quite often ignoring my phone calls or texts.
Despite my concerns he can be very funny, charming and generous. DD is totally besotted with him. But his anger issues frighten me.
I’ve spoken to DD about my worry about him and she just says that’s the way he is and she loves him.
I keep thinking surely this relationship has run its course but it’s still going on.
Should I carry on trying to contact the mum about my concerns?