Worried mum

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My dd15 is normally a very content and caring girl but as typical with teenagers have had issue with friends who have been so close for 3 years 1st major issue . She told me she was being left out and told she is being annoying. So we had a long chat about it and without trying to take over just listened and asked her questions as I believe girls need to sort out own issues unless it's bullying and the just thought it was all quite trivial. Anyway 1 of mums called me for chat out of concern and said my dd has been griping at girls a lot and giving out to them and she is asking as this is so out of character if she is stressed over something and taking out in school. Tbh a new girl joined group and I'm thinking it's a jealous thing but now I'm worried. I do have access to phone at and see nothing untoward there. Am at a loss as I don't want to be seen as bombarding her with what I've been told as I don't want to break trust if mum of friend also want my daughter to know I'm always looking out for her. Any advice on how to approach

Just keep talking to your daughter, be non judgemental. She needs to feel you are on her side, or she may withdraw from you as well. They’ll probably work it out themselves. Just be her support, not sure what else you can do without risking upsetting her with their accusations. Good luck xx

thanks for your reply.an update we went out for dinner last nightand had a great chat she opened up totally to me and things other concerned mum regarding stress and other issues seem a little severe now ... my hunch was right she hasnt been as bad without provokation by girls its seems to be they always do mickey taking and always have done which was always fun but recently they became personal to her to see she if she would rise to it which she says on a few occassions she has as its about weight and shape of head etc whic tbh if this was me i think i might have done more than snap at them! she says this have affected her but has told them a week ago its not fun anymore and they are all back on track thank god. we even went rhough her phone together just to confirm nothing going on that she is hiding from me and all seems normal
after a night or 2 of no sleep worrying something is really bothering her am very proud of the way between tears has told me the truth and that even though she loves these girls thinks maybe they are just drifting apart a little but they will sort themselves out.
For anyone reading moral of story always go with your GUT instincts and dont allow others to get in your head and worry you without first getting to bottom of it. i know i will.