Newbie Member - Single Dad looking for your experiences to assist him.

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Hey everyone! Would be open to other people’s thoughts. So I am Single Dad with 3 girls (14 yo twins & 5 yo).

Found 3 Cigarettes & lighter in 14 yo school bag.

I have 2 concerns on how to handle and approach?

Do I discuss it with her? Punish or encourage her to smoke and build some trust from my experiences. It’s not clear in my head. . Personally I closet smoke and never around my kids. They would have smelt it a few times on me. I don’t want my kids smoking. But I also believe in people make choices.

Mums who’ve had teens smoke - How do I bring it up with them? Do I get her smoking 20 in a row? Do I suggest a quit program?
Many angles. I don’t want to encourage. I want to intelligently discourage.

Ladies who experimented with cigs around 13-15. What influenced tr8”Yinh it
If you started Smoking - why? How did you get them?
Did it take Long before you got addicted to smoking?
What things influence to keep going?
Did you smoke around them and with them?
And do many stop or is this the bit where it’s only growing.

Ladies who experiment but didn’t go on smoking.
What things influenced you not picking it up?

I don’t thing there’s a correct answer.

Next issue I’m having is going to be a respond to her

Hi, sorry you’ve not had any responses, I’ll put in my 10p worth... I started smoking at that age (a long time ago) and almost instantly loved it. Took me 30 years to give up. The only thing that would have stopped me I think would have been peer group disapproval. Can you point out how unpopular it is now, how people look when doing it? It used to be the ‘fun crowd’ activity - but not now.
I definitely wouldn’t punish, she’s experimenting, which is in teens DNA. Talk, discuss, beg, even bribe... keep the communication open. Maybe smoke one with her and describe what’s actually happening, and then stop with her as a pact? Ime treating them like adults works better than treating them like kids.
Good luck.