Teens, friendships and bitching

[Mrsdavidson]

For those a little more experienced with a teen, is it normal for girls to change friends often? My dd13 has a few constants who she has been friends with since starting high school, but other than that, she changes her "bff" fairly regularly - she'll hang around with someone for a while (a few weeks - to a couple of months), they will be joined at the hip, then it's over. Onto the next one. I also find that girls are incredibly bitchy - they form "friend groups" who are against other "friend groups"... I always tell my dd to be kind, that you don't know what someone else is going through and not to be nasty, but there's always bitching going on in one group chat or another, fall outs happening and general nastiness (not from dd but in general in her year) - again, maybe normal?, but some kids are just horrible!

Yes I’ve noticed the same thing with my DD whose 11 group chats (not her, her year group) all bitching and just nasty and plain rude to each other but her private messages with others are a different story like she’s talking to two different children, I think it’s them just showing to the whole year and trying to look ‘cool’ but to me as a adult it looks awful and bratty and so immature, Dd often tells me none of her friends parents monitor or check they phones so they can do what they want and they parents haven’t got a clue what they are really doing on them I also notice a lot of the girls are very attention seeking on these groups and need so much validation from they classmates like they lack any confidence it’s very sad but yes completely ‘normal’
As for the switching bff that is normal too as long as she’s treating everyone respectfully and everyone’s being respectful to her I wouldn’t worry about it, it’s a daily thing with my DD’s year group atm some have they bff and stick together others are constantly swapping the dynamics and friendship groups as they just all moved into secondary school this year I’d only worry if it’s because of fall outs that she becomes bff with someone else all the time