Should DS buy a round?

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We're on holiday, all paid for by us, a short break in UK and easily affordable for us (in our current circumstances, not always the case).

DS is 18yo, working full time for slightly over minimum wage. He's bought a round, which cost him two hours' pay.

I feel bad letting him do it. OTOH, these things do cost money, he needs to understand etc etc.

Why not? Enjoy

I did that at his age. Why not?
(I didn't pay any sort of rent money or anything though and my parents then bought me a flat so it really was the bare minimum I could do.) If he has a whole load of life expenses then I'd accept it once but wouldn't again, if you can afford to do that.

I remember feeling pretty proud of myself the first time I ever bought my parents a meal with money I'd earned. It's a little bit of a milestone.

Of course he should!

No , bless , let him have his minimum wage

Of course he should

Of course he should. I love it when my kids actually get a round in. I wouldn't expect it but nice when they do.

My DS if a similar age would be proud to buy a round and would be annoyed (feel patronised?) if we didn't let him. I'm sure he's happy to as a thank you fur the holiday.

If you’ve paid for the holiday, and he’s earning, then yes of course. If you’re not charging him rent then he may well have more disposable income than you all! My DDs friend is working in KFC part time. She earns £100 a week. That is much more disposable income than I have .

Good for him. Let him contribute and afford him that respect. Thank him properly and let him know how much you appreciate it.

It’s nice to give him the chance to feel grown up buying a round. I’d tend to buy the other rounds myself if I earned more though as I could afford it better. But he should have the opportunity to buy a round as well. I know people who never buy a round. Perhaps if their parents had taught them the etiquette better .....

I think it's OK to let him buy the occasional round. My DS is a student and only works in the summer holidays but he buys a round if we are out and has even bought me lunch when we've been in town.(I pay far more frequently than he does) No one likes a tight arse who has deep pockets and short arms and there are plenty of those around who are earning - the sort who are always last to the bar!

A round probably costs me two hours pay too!

If you paid for the holiday and the food paying for a round or ice creams is fine

When i was 16, we went as a family to the USA, I was working full time.
I paid for everything myself, flight, park tickets, food, drink, share in the villa and car hire cost.
Why would he not get a round of drinks? His an adult and on a free holiday

Yes, he can be proud he can do this for his parents. My Ds 14 likes to hold heavy shopping for me. I would often say oh it’s too heavy let me do it. DH pointed out he wants to help and demonstrate his strength do now I ask him to hold the heavy shopping

Nice boy, good for him. I bet he felt proud.

He's probably proud of himself, absolutely it's a good thing.

If he doesn't pay rent or board and you're paying for his holiday he probably has more disposable income on full-time minimum wage than much of the adult population do.

I think it's really really good for kids to understand that spending money on others can be enjoyable - this is step one of that surely.

Money is there to be spent - on fun/ seeing friends/ but also on treating those around him and being generous.

You paid for the holiday - I think it would be a bit sad if an 18 year old didn't think to buy their parents a drink sometimes.