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Teenagers

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A little bit disappointed in DS

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JustDanceAddict · 01/11/2019 07:51

DS (15) asked if he could go out last night. He doesn’t normally go out midweek but as it was Halloween I said yes (I have no interest in it so nothing going on here). He said he was going to a friend’s who I know of (ie been there before and I know the name), going w another friend who I actually know properly so fine.
Didn’t see him last night as he got back when I’d gone to bed (dh was up), but this morning he told me that they’d egged a car (who allegedly egged them first) and they’d gone to a park where people ie teens were throwing fireworks (not them thank goodness).
I’m glad he told me but I can’t say I’m happy about it. I thought they’d be watching a horror film w snacks (and possibly a beer as the ‘naughty’ thing).
He is generally a good lad that does well at school but I suppose I’m just a bit sad that he’s such a teen now 😔 I’ve got to take him to an appt after school today so I’ll have a chat about it then (but I don’t want him to stop telling me stuff as then I’ll be totally in the dark).
It’s also a bit of the group mentality thing at that age which is scary!

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mcmen05 · 01/11/2019 12:42

He's not that bad unless he hurt someone with the egg. I know he said he was at a house but went out, maybe they organised this after he went to the house and thought that if he told you he wouldn't be allowed.

I tell my kids I don't mind a bit of fun as long as no one gets hurt or bullied and no drinking in parks.

Tell him to always tell the truth and to contact you if plans change so you know where he is.

lanthanum · 01/11/2019 18:09

Mcmen, would you feel differently about eggs if I told you that on one occasion, our window was smashed by a raw egg. I'm sure the kid responsible thought it was harmless fun, but I'm afraid it wasn't.

I have to say, I'd be less willing to let a teen out at halloween than other nights, because of the risk that they get pulled into stupid behaviour.

Ifyoulikepinacolidas · 01/11/2019 18:13

@mcmen05 seriously?! So it’s ok for people to throw stuff at other people/their stuff causing a mess as long as it’s just a bit of fun and nobody gets physically hurt?! Maybe think about how other people don’t want their stuff being messed up rather than your kid’s need for ‘fun’. Might be fun for him but it’s not fun for other people

JustDanceAddict · 01/11/2019 20:54

Def not right to throw eggs and there is no way I’d condone that even if provoked.
I did talk to him more and I reiterated that it was v dangerous to be around fireworks that were being thrown as well. It seems like there were a lot of boys, some were friends of friends so they were all trying to be ‘hard’ I’m sure.

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