Is teenager being ungrateful or am I being unreasonable?

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Teenager asked for a specific thing for Christmas last year. I bought it for him with a related add on. The two items cost £120 combined. He has never used the items and now says he doesn’t want them and has asked me to sell them for him. If I sell them I think the most I could get is £30 for the two items combined because he no longer has the boxes and obviously they are second hand. I told him I won’t help him to sell them because I feel he should be grateful for gifts and not ask me as the giver to sell them for a fraction of what I paid for them. I told him he can sell them himself but not involve me. He has ranted and raged and told me I am being unreasonable and ridiculous as the items are sat gathering dust. I just don’t feel I should be able expected to sell them for him as it is akin to me just setting fire to the money last December.

Would you sell them for your teenager in these circumstances?

The only way your DS can sell said item in at a car boot. (If he is younger then 16) I do agree with you though the amount of money and items that children have on Xmas is outrageous. I brought my DS what he asked for and for the past 3 years every item has been keep in the boxes. I think he is saveing them until they are collectable.

Why can’t he just sell them himself? How hard can it be? Stick it on Facebook marketplace, sell to a friend, stick a note in the corner shop. It’s not difficult.

I have told him I am not selling them for him. I might have been willing to negotiate something if his attitude had been better but the way he ranted and raged and was frankly disrespectful means that after thinking about it I am not willing to try and help him.
He is 16, almost 17 and old enough to know better.
I see giving in now as the same as giving a bag of sweets to a toddler who has rolled around the floor screaming for sweets for 20 Minutes, just setting myself up for similar behaviour every time he wants his own way.

This year I’d cut down on his expensive gifts then if he can’t be grateful. Time to earn money by chores or even I job I think

As much as it's annoying you cannot dictate what happens with a gift after it's given.

If he doesn't know how to sell it, show him, you don't need to do it for him.

I suggested earning money by doing chores, no response, so I guess he’s not actually desperate for money.
A paid job would be difficult because he is doing 5 A levels.
Present lists are being revised in future.

He knows how to sell things bluntness he has sold things previously but seems to think I am better at selling things and will get a much better price. Really he just doesn’t want to make the effort.
I’m not saying he can’t sell the stuff, just that I’m not selling it for him.

I wouldn't be mad at him not using the items. Wanting things that you don't need is a common mistake to make. Myself i have numerous kitchen appliances which i thought were useful.
But selling he should do himself. See it as a learning opportunity.

Maybe pitch it that if YOU sell them, you keep the money, but if he wants the money, he needs to put the work in to sell them.

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YADNBU, & I know how infuriating it is, as mine does it too. 🤬

We now have a rule, if I buy it & it's isn't properly used, it's mine to sell, not hers. This has definitely helped her attitude

definitely don't sell it for him. lazy swine.