Social services

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Need help!
Ive never had to go through anything like this before so I need some advice please!
So I have a 14 year old sister who yesterday went to her friends house.
at 8pm her friend came knocking on the door to tell us she's really unwell as she'd had a lot to drink. She never ever usually drinks because we are muslim but since our parents are away (abroad to look after elderly) I think she thought it would be ok.
My parents would go crazy if they found out, me and my other sister were supposed to be responsible of her, but we never thought she would do anything like that.
I didn't think she was that bad until I saw her she was totally out of it, threw up 5 times and was barley responding to us we didn't know what to do. She had also inhaled a whole can of deodorant ?? didn't even know that was a thing.
So my sister rushed her to the hospital they took her in straight away.
I had to stay at home with my son and my other younger sister.
The doctors said they will be reporting it to social services as she is a minor, I don't know what to tell my parents?
And what will social services do as I have never had to go through anything like this before.
We have the worlds most strictest parents its so unusual for anything like this to ever happen.

To be honest I doubt you'll hear a thing from social services, there are many many minors who get intoxicated. Just because they do a referral doesn't mean you'll hear from them I expect they will no further Action it.

God what a nightmare. We’re there parents in the friends house? Inhaled deodorant? What!

14 and drunk of her tits, inhailing deodorant. I'd be telling your parents tbh. She could have died. If I were your parents I'd be taking the parents of her friends to court too.

If it had just been the drink then i might have been inclined to think 'she's never drank before and didn't know her limits' but the other thing... Nah,that's messed up. I'd also be sitting down with her and telling her her friends aren't friends if they just sit back and let her do that.

Sorry but, I do think you need to tell your parents about this one unfortunately.

@wishingforapositiveyear Thank you, I really hope we won't but I know it will be on their records forever.
@QueefLatifah - It was the worst thing to ever witness.
Yes it was in her friends summer house in their back garden so I'm guessing her parents wasn't aware of what was going on, but I can see they're scared too incase they get into trouble.
Yep deodorant what silly girls! I don't think they realise the harm they can cause themselves.

Inhaling deodorant could kill her!

Bloody hell!

You need to tell your parents but I can see the dilemma, sometime being too strict can have the opposite affect.

She was soo out of it it was like seeing somebody who had just overdosed on drugs, I can't get that picture out of my head forever.
If we hadn't taken her to the hospital she could've died she was barley conscious.
My mum had warned me to not let her go out until she came back but I let her go so I feel like its all my fault. But I really never knew she would do such a thing.
I don't want to ruin her time away by letting her know what has happened, she's already under a lot of stress abroad.

I work with at risk teens who do alot of things like this and the huge red flag for me is the inhalation of deodorant. The drinking is fairly standard although maybe to an extreme but as PPs have said the deodorant could have killed her. Definitely a more concerning behaviour than just drinking.

SS will be more worried about the solvent abuse at 14 than they would be with the drinking alone.

Unfortunately this is what sometimes happens when children of overly strict parents suddenly find themselves some freedom. They don't know their limits, or how to deal with peer pressure when it comes to things like drugs and solvent abuse. How is she today? Tried to be kind to her, she will be terrified of seeing her parents when they come back, make sure nothing else happened at her friends that she might need support with - were there boys there?

Your parents will need to know, but if she is in no immediate danger let the dust settle today.

When are your parents due back? Perhaps you can put off telling them for a few days but...if social services come by it might be better if one if at them at least is back.

How old are you op? Maybe they'd be OK with just chatting with you. But you say you have a son and you were acting as guardian at the time so, I'd be worried about the implications of that. Maybe best to get a parent home asap.

Chances are the other family might bare the brunt of it as it was at there place this took place and presumably their child was in a state too? For all you knew she was just staying at a friends.

But yeh I would expect the deodarant sniffing will mean a visit from ss.

The solvent abuse is a much bigger concern than the alcohol, although getting ill enough to end up in hospital isn't great.
But don't panic OP, social services may do a visit to talk the incident through and hand out info on drink/drugs but they are likely to do anymore. Depending on how stretched they are in your area they may not even do that.
In terms of being on record it isn't like a police record you have to declare. As a one off report it is very unlikely to have any impact going forward for her.