13 Year Old Son Concerns!

[TwinkleToes8613]

Hi,
My son turned 13 four months ago. I have a few concerns with regards to his social life and maturity. He never ever messages friends from school, or goes out with friends at weekends, or during school holidays, even though I’m always encouraging it. The problem with this is he’s around me and his younger siblings a lot and at his age I feel he should be becoming more independent, he should want to be with friends and enjoy a social life. Another one is his maturity, he acts
a lot younger and is happy to play with his 4 and 8 year old siblings when I feel he should be past that now. He doesn’t have any hobbies or clubs that he goes to. He also loiters around myself a lot in the evening too, when I wish he would just go off and spend time in his room doing something he enjoys without being what I feel as dependant on me. He sometimes plays golf/football with him Dad but again all of his activities/social evolve around us, his parents. Does anyone have any advice please?

Thanks!

I don't really have any advice but my 14 yr old son is similar. Doesn't meet with friends text, call them. Only goes out with me or his dad and 5yr old sister.
He does go to a running club and enjoys that. I used to really worry but now I think if hes happy maybe I'm the one with the issue.
Is your son happy? Does he say he wants to go out but has no friends?
Maybe try and get him into a group even once a week. Swimming, scouts, athletics anything really to get him out. Maybe learn an instrument or is he into gaming? I cant keep mine off ps4! It's hard and I worry about mine alot but I've now started to think he socialises at school all day so if he wants to spend time with us at the weekend and evenings, and just potter about let him

My ds is nearly 15 and he was like this when he was 13 . He was much more immature than his friends and didn't initiate contact/ meet ups with them.
Now, he's a lot different. He arranges to meet the friends and we barely see him ( he keeps us informed of where he is though all the time ).
Some kids, especially boys just mature a little more slowly. Keep encouraging him but don't make a massive deal of it as he may get a hang up about it.
The best of luck .

Thanks ladies, it seems a lot of other people’s children seem to be out of the house all the time and it made me concerned that maybe he should be doing more than he is doing. He seems to have a social life at school. I’ve always said he’s welcome to invite friends over but he says “No I’m ok!”. So maybe I should just leave things as they are and maybe in time he will socialise that bit more.

My just turned 14 year old DS is also like this.It bothers me a bit because I remember all the fun I had at that age with my friends, and feel like he’s missing out. But actually he’s happy, he does have friends and enjoys being with them when he is, and his life isn’t mine, so long as he’s content that’s all that matters. And on the positive, it means we have a lovely relationship and get to enjoy time together, all too soon life will mean that we’ll be apart, so I am choosing to enjoy it while it lasts