Eating disorder

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My daughter is 14 and severely underweight..after visiting the doctor we have been told today her BMI is below 15. She knows how thin she is and hates it, she doesn't make herself sick or anything but the doctor now thinks she's anorexic? Has anyone heard of this form of anorexia before?

I know what you mean. We've had many a morning where he's gone to school on a foul mood and feeling sick because he's had to eat more than half a pop tart and I've gone to work in tears.

Interesting that they're thinking along the same lines with the CBT.

@BeBraveAndBeKind yea it is and as it was explained to us I can see why they are thinking along them lines...has your son spent much time off school?

No, they said if he could be diagnosed as anorexic, they pull him from school but as he wasn't, they didn't. He's been off PE for a year though.

They took my daughter out of school straight away, she is bright but I worry about the amount of work she's missing and also the interaction with friends. Consultants have even advised against walking the dog and to have complete bedrest.

You'd think there would be a fairly consistent approach across the country but it seems to really vary by area.

Maybe it depends on how they're presenting. Apart from being very skinny, he's not had any fainting, his bloods are fine and he's going through puberty as he should be. I'm worried about his brain development and concentration though as his grades have really dropped.

@BeBraveAndBeKind yes it def must depend on what area u live in as to how they deal with you. she was very lightheaded and having small blackouts altho thankfully that appears to have stopped.

They Have told us that concentration is def effected so you are probably right to have those concerns.

@BeBraveAndBeKind sorry not sure how to DM you 😊 how's things been?

Following this thread as I am beginning to worry about my soon to be 12 year old DD, she had a major fallout with a friend and I have noticed over the last couple of weeks she has greatly reduced her food intake to less than half of most meals, she normally asks for snacks constantly but that has stopped, I offered her a choc cookie just now which she loves but she refused.

I am acutely aware of signs as had/have an eating disorder not that my dd knows.

You may have mentioned it, but what were the first signs you noticed with your dd? I don't want to say anything to her just yet, as worried it's nothing but am also worried it might be something. Fwiw I didn't have any treatment so feel at a real loss as to what to do next.

How is your DD doing at the moment? Does she talk to you or do you all just try to carry on as normal?
How are you coping with it all?

@Rupertpenrysmistress with my DD she became very picky and ate less and less until I realised she was only eating once per day..she has lost a lot of weight gradually since starting high school. She started having dizzy spells so I took her to my gp who referred her to camhs, they have been excellent. My DD doesnt throw up and is very conscious of how thin she is. She's now on a re-feeding plan but isn't following it so now we are facing the prospect of being admitted to hospital next week. Anxiety is a big problem for her aswel. We will know more at our next meeting on Monday.

Perhaps u could try talking to her and maybe ask her if she would speak to a doctor or involve the school, she may talk to a teacher she likes.

Thank you for your advice. I will have a think about what to say, I just worry I might make it worse.

Wishing the best for you and your DD. Look after yourself too.

@Rupertpenrysmistress yes u too..it's a really hard situation to be in. Hopefully she will talk to you.