DS off to uni and I'm OK about it I think

[Myfirstcarwasamini]

Is it OK that I'm actually looking forward to it? I do worry a lot about him all the time as I don't think everything is easy for teenagers. I've always put him first and I've brought him up by myself mostly. He is a lovely DS. I couldn't be prouder of him. He can be really awkward and a bit exasperating though sometimes like any teenager.
I'm looking forward to having a bit more time to myself. I'm thinking of changing my working hours and also pursuing some new activities. I feel a bit guilty that I'm quite excited inside and wonder why I'm not more emotional about him leaving when he's been my main focus for 18 years.

Because you have expected it and planned for it? It’s not a surprise so you can start planning.

With mine, I love the space I have when they’ve gone back to uni, but then desperately look forward to the end of term when they are back and causing mess and mayhem. And the cycle continues....

What ThroughThickAndThin said

I think it’s lovely My that you are able to wave him off with a happy heart and a sense that one part of the job is done.

Even though I was very pleased DS1 was going to uni I did have a little secret wobble in bed the night before, so you might well get all emotional on the day. But three of mine have gone now and it gets much easier. It’s lovely to see them all grown up.

two of my sons have gone to uni this year and i miss them like mad, i try not to constantly call and text :( I wish i was feeling more positive

Mine was so ready for it that I felt quite proud. He’s ready for the next stage of his life and I feel I’ve worked hard over the years to support his growth and whilst I’ll always be here for him I know there isn’t anything else so could have done to prepare him for adult life. Was sad on the way home and looking forward to him being home at Christmas. Maybe because I still have Dd at home I don’t feel as liberated as OP but hopefully I will. OP it’s a job well done, use your time, I look forward to being in your position:)

Thank you for all the replies.. They've been so helpful. We've got through the first week. He seems to having a ball and for me that's all that matters. I won't lie I've so missed his energy in the house and he is on my mind especially at night as this is my worry spot about him getting home safely. I struggled a lot with this once he started going out but I know I've got to get over that. I just keep rminding myself that he is on campus. I have enjoyed the feeling of liberation and when a bit of guilt has shown its face I've kicked it to the kerb!!

University Terms are short. They’re back All. The. Time. With their permission I have find friends on all mine. I never ever mention it- although they will often message me to say what are you doing in...? With a little discreet checking on last active and ff I never feel that heartsink did they make it home safely. And not clock watching at the end of the day at work, finishing stuff leisurely and having cheese and biscuits and an apple for supper. Priceless!