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He's torn

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Cherry111 · 11/09/2019 23:04

My son will be 18 in December. He's had a couple of relationships, 2 with girls who were major hard work and a lot of stress. He's been in tears and very upset at the end, plus is such turmoil thinking it's his fault etc. He's now with the loveliest girl, I can speak to her and chat away normally. He's said recently that he's not feeling her, there's no passion/lust. I'm in 2 minds. I want him to have that excitement and passion. But I really love this new girl, she's so calm and accepting of his hobbies etc. She still goes out and does her own thing and so does he. I love this as I think it's healthy. He feels so bad that he's not majorly into her. How do I make him not feel bad about his decisions?

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dickiedavisthunderthighs · 11/09/2019 23:07

Eh? He's 18. He's got plenty of girlfriends ahead of him. It's not up to you to be in 'two minds' as it's got diddly squat to do with you!!

SunshineDays2019 · 11/09/2019 23:27

Being kind, I suggest you step back and let your adult son handle his own love life. Being blunt...FFS...get a life!

Elmo311 · 11/09/2019 23:31

People are so rude for no reason Op!
You just have to let him get on with it and he will live and learn. It's a shame you like this one and he isn't keen but there will be others and he will toughen up with experience.

Be there if he needs your emotional support but he has to get there on his own.

Flossiefoo · 12/09/2019 18:54

Why do some feel the need to be so bloody rude ? The OP was asking for advice on how to help her son feel not so bad.

Cherry111 - all you can do is be there for him. I totally get, as a mum, you want to help him, I have experienced something similar, but he's young and will come to his own conclusions.

QueenoftheFarts · 12/09/2019 20:02

I cant stand one of my sons' girlfriends. But he's happy. I'm afraid you need to let your boy make his own choices.

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