How do you teach your children gratitude?

[Mumofboth]

I think I’ve brought my children up to be polite, respectful and decent. Yet at times I can’t believe how ungrateful my DD can be. My husband and I work so so hard and sacrifice our own things to make sure our kids don’t go without. Then my daughter will make throw away comments like “I think we’ll get X’s mum to drop us off, her car isn’t ancient like yours” (my car is 5 years old FFS!!!). Her friends parents are considerably better off than us but there’s absolutely nothing I can do about that.
Apart from stopping any money I give her, how can I teach her gratitude because I’ve clearly failed.

I think at that age they don't realise and social media has taken over the world, making unattainable lives seem the norm to teens. I would teach her the value of hard work and explain how much things cost, how many hours work that is for you

I think teaching the value of money is good. Mine were older but when they got to college I gave them enough for lunches, bus, and clothes each month. Then they're looking at the price of trainers and thinking well if I buy cheaper ones I can buy a top too.

I used to say we work hard, we get paid and we spend what we have left wisely. We can have our car and a holiday or we can have a newer car. What would you have done. I also used to talk about being overdrawn and credit cards, especially if there was a news item where someone looked as if they had everything but were in debt.

They don't really get it until they have moved out and have to fund everything themselves, IMO

I think it's not so much about gratitude, as thoughtlessness about how their throwaway comment might be perceived, and make a person feel.

I tend to just quietly say that actually, that really rather hurt my feelings, and perhaps she might want to reflect on the fact that many children have parents that can't afford bus fare, let alone a car, and be thankful for what you've got.

Someone once said that if you are waiting for your dcs to show gratitude then you’ll be waiting for a very long time