15 year old wanting to go on holiday for girlfriend

[Jof21]

He's just turned 15, girlfriend is nearly 16. Holiday arranged via his dad (my ex) and her parents despite the fact he lives with me. School grades are atrocious, no effort and a load of attitude which means there's not a lot to reward with a holiday. Literally just been furnished with the details that his dad signed off the week from start of Yr11 as ok - 'he'll pay the fine if there is one, just tell them he's ill!' plus the second blow that son will be sharing a bedroom with the girlfriend - her parents don't see an issue with it. So my conundrum, does he go, or do I play wicked parent and withold his passport?? My gut says the latter as I don't know these people. Thoughts please

It's OK to say no !!! They may not be having sex now but sharing a bedroom is a temptation too far ! Totally in agreement with you. I have a 15 dd and we don't allow 16yo boyfriend in the bedroom for that sole reason .. tenptation !

As an update....girlfriend flew this morning....he's still in bed in the UK.Angry and upset and I'm Cruella da ville but it"ll blow over eventually . I just need to ride out the storm

Thank goodness your DS has one sensible parent, and one who isn't afraid to say no-that can't have been easy and your ex is a dick for putting you in that position. Well done OP.

@Aprillygirl

So they were going to go away alone together? No other adults present? No, I wouldn't have allowed this either.

Remind him soldiers went to war and were reunited with gf's! She is only on holiday!

Multiple issues with this, first of all for me would be not knowing the people in question, I wouldn't be happy with my dd going on holiday at 15 with a family I didn't know, never mind the boyfriend girlfriend dimension.

Then there is the matter of missing school in term time when struggling with school, no way they would be able to do that even just in that basis, so it would be a big no from me...