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Teenagers and winter coats

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Annaa77 · 08/08/2019 01:55

I have a 14 year old daughter, and she always argues about dressing warm and wearing a winter coat. There was a sale this weekend and I got her a thick long down coat, and she’s upset about it. Are you teenagers the same when it comes to this?

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dementedpixie · 08/08/2019 07:44

I wouldn't have bought it without her input. Dd's last winter coat went to the charity shop largely unworn.

Toomboom · 08/08/2019 07:47

Teenagers rarely wear coats. None of mine have anyway. They seem to feel they are immune to the weather.
I would never buy a coat without input from my children as I know there would be no chance of them wearing them.

bouncingraindrops · 08/08/2019 07:48

Mine loves her coats. She likes to have some sort of involvement in choosing them though.

Alarmclockstop · 08/08/2019 07:55

I don't think you can buy teenagers clothes without imput. And I don't know any teenagers that wear sensible winter coats, they all appear to enjoy getting soaking wet and freezing.

sweetkitty · 08/08/2019 07:56

DD1 saw one in New Look she liked last year, it’s warm with a good and more importantly she likes it. DD2 has a boys Nike one. I agree at this age let them choose, if you choose for them that’s untrendy!

stucknoue · 08/08/2019 08:05

Mine wear coats but I do let them choose them

bouncingraindrops · 08/08/2019 12:37

I'm not sure what reason you have for PM me and ask what kind of coats my teenager has, but I don't discuss my child's clothing in private.

If you want to get your kid a coat, take her and get her a coat.

If you are a pervert with an interest in teenagers and their coats, fuck off.

HTH.

SnowsInWater · 12/08/2019 00:51

My boys would never wear coats, maybe a warmer hoodie or jumper.

16yo DD wears jackets but not coats (though to be fair we are in Sydney so coat season doesn't last long). I did buy her a jacket recently that I was pretty sure she would like, and she did, but in general it's probably safer to involve her in buying clothes. Can you return/exchange the coat you bought?

Barryallen · 12/08/2019 04:20

My 14 year old daughter rarely wears a coat and tbh I’ve decided that she’s old enough to live with the cold if that’s her choice! Bearing in mind we live in New England in the US and we have proper winters with snow and below zero temps regularly! Obviously if we have a lot of snow and they’re out in in she wears a winter coat of mine but the compromise day to day is she wears a North Face vest or I buy her a Patagonia fleece which is more like a sweater. She is never cold, would hate having to carry a big coat around school all day (no uniforms to worry about here) and none of the high schoolers seem to wear a proper coat! The English me was bothered about this for a long time but now it’s not a battle I choose to fight!!

mbosnz · 12/08/2019 14:01

I found laying down the stipulation that it had to be warm and waterproof and then being prepared to fork out for a silly brand that had street cred meant that it got worn, they stayed warm and dry.

cakeandchampagne · 12/08/2019 14:05

You pick the price range & she gets to pick the coat- and when to choose to wear it.

BrokenWing · 12/08/2019 14:12

ds gets a school bus (bus is usually waiting for them in morning and at home time) and they are allowed to stay indoors at break if there is inclement weather so no need for a huge/bulky winter coat on school days which he would need to wear/carry from class to class in a warm school.

He has a light waterproof breathable jacket, usually reasonable quality bought biggish and does 18 months - 2 years.

BrokenWing · 12/08/2019 14:16

@bouncingraindrops, a bit brutal 🤣 unless the PM was getting a bit pervy. maybe op just doesn't get MN PM etiquette, I'm sure she wont make that mistake again!!!!

bouncingraindrops · 12/08/2019 14:54

Brutal?

Maybe. It's not the first time I have had an unnecessary PM on here when talking about kids clothes. Makes me want to vomit.

TeenTimesTwo · 12/08/2019 16:01

Agree with the others, You can't buy a 14yo a coat without their input.
Plus tbh August is not a great time for a teen to be thinking about winter clothing, though I understand re wanting to get a bargain.

reluctantbrit · 12/08/2019 16:19

For school DD wore a coat last winter when it was really cold, think under 5 degrees in the morning. She had it over her arms when she came home. She will wear gloves and hat/ear muffs though.

She has a waterproof ski-type jacket as well for weekends and when she is out with the scouts. Luckily she loves being warm and cosy so no arguing so far.

But, she has to choose it herself. For school there is no choice, plain black, no logos. But for leisure I let her choose in a budget I picked. It was cream with purple bits. After one scout trip it is now greyish cream with purple bits. :-)

Lara53 · 12/08/2019 17:28

My kids wear a jumper and blazer to school and walk to and from station so just add gloves when it’s really cold!

heymammy · 14/08/2019 22:23

16yr old dd wore a Sherpa lined jacket from Hollister last winter, she would never wear a coat type coat, definitely not something past hip length!

SnugglySnerd · 14/08/2019 22:26

I'm a secondary school teacher. Coats seems to go in cycles of being acceptable or not. Last winter they wouldn't take the bloody things off! All were short jackets, puffa-style with fur trimmed hoods though. Not long coats.

MarthaDunstable · 14/08/2019 22:32

Mine love their coats - DD has about six in various weights (half from charity shops), and DS has three. But I wouldn’t dream of getting one without their input - if I saw something that looked appropriate and a bargain I’d wave the website under their noses, but if they refused on the basis of some styling flaw invisible to me I’d offer up the contents of all affordable shops and let them pick something that matched their requirements. Last time I was buying for DD H&M had twenty almost identical parkas in a range of colours, weights, lengths and styling options.

Unusualusernames · 26/08/2019 09:12

Yes! I spent £50 on a super warm down coat from Zara. She refused to wear it and grew out of it. She's 13 and I don't even bother buying her clothes now without her input because I've wasted so much money.

CherryPavlova · 26/08/2019 09:18

I think buying a coat without asking is a recipe for an unworn coat sitting in a wardrobe.
I don’t think mine ever wore coats very much as teenagers unless hill walking or sailing. It’s still hit and miss as young adults but more about fashion than warmth.
I rarely wear a coat. It has to be in minus numbers for me to put one on.

ExpletiveDelighted · 26/08/2019 09:32

One of mine will only wear a coat if its below zero, the other won't wear them to school (jumper/blazer is enough) but wears them other times however they have to be her choice and she won't be told what to wear. I think this is pretty normal.

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