Our daughter wants to have friends over to celebrate her 16th next week and says she doesn’t want us in the house. We’ve said no. Instead we’ve offered her full run of the garden for a hang out/ music/food/ soft drink late in to the night without us disturbing them but still being in the house...she doesn’t want this and would rather go off to a nearby field for the same kind of gathering til the early hours, again we’ve said no to this. It doesn’t help that her friend has done just this last night, even though we were told this would be a house party..didn’t realise until I picked her up at gone 11 and she wasn’t where she said she would be. I discussed this calmly with her last night explaining that I needed her to be honest about her whereabouts etc. In fact she told me last night ‘you didn’t want me in the house at your 40th, (she was 9 and stayed until early evening before going to a friends for a sleep over) so I don’t want you at my 16th’. I know teens kick off and are meant to grow away from you but I feel immensely hurt by her behaviour and rudeness. Jeez - any advice? AIBU/ over protective?? Am I that out of touch?