I'm a shit parent

[Hogepodge]

i don't listen to my child, I didn't realise. How shit is that.
When they need you and you aren't bloody there. We have both failed her and all three of us are struggling mentally.
Will I be able to access counselling both me and dh have had it recently, dh is still going.
The wait for CAMHS will be ages and can we still access during holidays. I can't believe we have been so bloody shit. We don't row there's no violence, drug, or alcohol addictions with me and dh. We aren't nasty, just really shit and I am so sorry.

You can't be that bad! Are you going through a bad patch? You seem to have good self-awareness and we all fail to listen at times. I hope you get some help from CAMHS soon in the meantime take good care of yourself.

@Hogepodge....I do sympathise with how you feel. Ive adored my DD from before she was even born and from the day she was born. She's 18 and I've kissed and told her I've loved her every night. Ive really applied myself to trying to be a good mum. She's turned to drink, she hurts herself and she's been suicidal and not wanted to tell me. A slow round of applause for the product of my parental efforts. I get how you feel. But, and there is a but...sometimes shit just happens that is beyond our grasp as parents, the teen brain goes through massively changes right until 24YO I believe, they are individuals that make both good and sometimes bad choices. It's not all our fault OP. 💐

It's not too late to try and make things better. Spend some time together on a project (gardening? DIY? Shopping trip?) and chat while you're doing it, just casually to reconnect. Make a start and take it slowly. There will be setbacks but keep going. Relationships can be repaired and brains can be rewired. xx

You’re not shit, it’s just hard and there is no right or wrong way to parent, as long as you try and do your best.