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Dilemma, my lovely 14 year old V jealous younger kids

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MistressMouse · 22/07/2019 22:46

Dilemma. For the past 4 years, my lovely 14 year old has been harassed by 3 younger kids in our estate. It is fuelled entirely by jealousy. Four years ago it was downright, out and out bullying. I honestly thought this was a short term issue and it would self resolve. It hasn’t. This is now year 4 of this sorry saga.
Now, they are stalking him, following him, throwing him abuse in front of his pals, throwing me abuse, going on to our private property and making obscene gestures through my window and trying to get other kids to gang up and beat him up. Those kids have given us a full account which I could formally lodge with police.
Now, my son is getting annoyed and frustrated and fed up. He is a patient, kind, lovely boy and this is pushing him over the edge. He’s angry and wants to lash out. He has threatened to thump them. But if he does that, he’s in trouble because they are younger even though they are harassing him.
The parents of These kids (2 brothers and their friend) are in denial. They’ve been approached but told us “nonsense, our kids wouldn’t do that, you must be wrong, lying, mistaken”. They have a reputation for bad behaviour, and one family moved because of them.
I’m so torn apart, do I let my son give them a thumping and let that action sort it out? Do we approach the toxic family (my son sad no as they’d use that against him, to harass him further) do I log it with our local police, so that it is there on the record, in case?
Honestly, this has ruined our summer. I’m sorry if it sounds trivial but this now affecting my entire family and I honestly do not know what to do. Please don’t judge me. I’m hoping the MN hive mind will offer solutions I have not thought off.
It is honestly the shittiest of shit situations and shouldn’t be so. My child is just trying to enjoy his summer.

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littleyellowwellies · 22/07/2019 22:50

Start videoing them on your phone - the second they start any verbal abuse.

Also perhaps get a camera for your private land to get evidence of their trespassing.

If their parents are still in denial, I would inform the police as it's totally unacceptable behaviour.

Your poor son :(

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