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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

Teen living away from home

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incognitomode · 13/07/2019 18:33

My daughter went to university, not far but a couple of hours away. Since she has moved our relationship has deteriorated. She is making a lot of poor choices, she isn't looking after herself and then when everything goes badly I get the phone call were I swoop in help her and then get the cold shoulder for months.
The most recent issues are her getting pregnant, failing her first year at uni, and not paying her rent.
Honestly I don't know what to do with her. I am trying to give the distance she needs to learn etc but also I am her guarantor so I end up paying her rent when I can't afford too. She has major anxiety issues but she refuses to get help for them.
She is with a horribly emotionally abusive boyfriend, she is regularly bruised from "play fighting", she has stopped seeing all of her friends and I don't know how to help her.
We have spoken and I have been there with her at important times but then nothing or fb messages calling me out for being crap or whatever she says I give her zh*t all the time. I thought I was so lucky as a mum that we got on so well while she was a teen.
Any advice on what to do, she isn't spoiled or entitled but she is doing a good impression!

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surreysnapper · 23/07/2019 16:55

just bring her home for some healing and get her away from the bf, defer University as tgat really can wait

HennyPennyHorror · 24/07/2019 01:56

She's in an abusive relationship! Why are you blaming her??? Go and get her and bring her home ffs.

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