Consequences and or punishments for DS16

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I could be on the "End of the Rope" Parent to teenager thread at times, but I want to ask something specific about "consequences".

DS is not out of control out of the house (drinking etc). But he is disrespectful and surly a fair bit. I don't ask much, but even simple requests (to do the washing up a couple of times a week) or to stop slamming every door in the flat or stop being on the phone at 2 a.m. is met with apathy or non-compliance or sometimes anger.

Luckily he has finished his GCSEs, so that hurdle is over! But I am now faced with 2 years more of this and I want to get a few things "straight". First, I'm don't fancy running a doss house or hotel for the next 2 years. Second, all this behaviour is affecting me mentally (plus I have a physical illness that makes all the extra work difficult for me).

However, he is 16, I am a single parent, and I can't actually force him to comply if he refuses.

The only "consequence" it seems that is left to me to be stopping wi-fi for 24 hours, or 48 hours or whatever. He doesn't get pocket money, though he gets money for specific things e.g. train fare to see friends occasionally, but not much else.

Any thoughts? I am fairly easy going in many ways, but I have some basic needs for co-operation in our home, that he shoo-shoos.

Yours,

Utterly Fed Up

Hi Is he planning to do A levels for the next 2 years.
Can he get a part time job or some volunteer work for summer doing something he enjoys.
Get him to cook and clean the days you are at work he needs to learn these basic skills for when he goes to college.
If he does nothing to help you. Just cook for yourself if he's hungry he will make something.
During the summer I leave my 3 kids age 15 14 10 one job each to do when I'm at work. Their time is their own after that. Dh normally plays a board game with them and they take Dog out for a walk.

‘Get him to’ won’t work if he’s anything like mine! Contract? Civil behaviour (with details) and chores or no phone contract/ allowance.

How does he manage if he has no regular money?
Maybe ifchechad an allowance so he could go out and do something he might be less moody?

Thanks all. I did write a note of basic expectations (and wifi consequences).

He could see I was v upset at his latest shouting.

He said he would try.

I hope this is a corner turned.