Daughters Eyebrows

[mummymayhem18]

Another post from me about my rapidly growing up daughter 🤣. What do your daughters do about getting there eyebrows done as there are so many different types now to have done. She gets a few growing in the middle but just generally could do with a nice shape. Thanks

My daughter is 10 and is aware of body image. Not because I have failed her, but because she mixes with other girls at school.
When she asks me for short tops like her classmates and tiny shorts I say no. When she tells me her classmates have commented on her hairy legs I tell her to ignore them, her legs are fine and as they should be.
Let's not accuse people of failing their daughters.

Why can’t she just pluck the stray ones? I’m 51 and have been doing that since I was about 16. I have normal looking eyebrows I don’t need to pencil them in, and I don’t have to pay someone to take care of them! I don’t get all this high maintenance eyebrow obsession, a good pair of tweezers and a magnifying mirror are all you need.

Threading, but go easy. I like that the fashion is for big eyebrows now. Not like the nineties when we all wanted (hideously thin) brows like Gwen or Dolores. And Sunshine do you actually have a child? Or is this just conjecture?

My DD was very self conscious when she was 12 as she had very dark hair and you could see the hair on her upper lip and her eye brows were very dark and thick with some rogues in the middle. She gets both threaded every 4 weeks and has done since she was 12. It’s fast and relatively painless and cheap.

Like you all say apart from mainly @SunshineCake (which is why I didn't dignify the silly comment with a response) sadly our children grow up so quickly now and are aware of what there friends and people around them wear,hairstyles,any trends etc. Good on them if they don't want to follow the pack,I have huge respect for that as school/growing up can be tough. People will pick on comment about anything that they consider to be different,weird,odd etc. I remember growing up that my parents never bought me the latest styles,sportswear etc. They would never have paid for say a pair of Nike Air Max trainers for £60- £80 which is a lot I know but I just wanted to fit in and be one of the "cooler kids" . I know it's a sorry state of affairs when it's often how things are but that's life. It's hard if you can't afford it etc but I certainly don't see it as "failing " my child. After all who wouldn't want to look good, whether it's what clothes you wear or getting your eyebrows done etc.

Umm I too said that I thought it was crap by the way. 2 confident dds. They don't ask me about eyebrow plucking etc. They are sporty and cool IMO. Don't make out that people who's kids are not into hair and make up are not cool.

According to dd (18) over eyebrowing is very much passé (dead in teen chat) and a more naturelle look ala Cara delavigne is now all the rage! So leave them be.

Sunshine Cake - My daughter got relentlessly teased by other girls at school for having 'invisible' eyebrows. She wasn't bothered about eyebrows until that happened. Does that mean I'm a success or a failure as a parent?

She pencils them in lightly now to shut them up. The problem wasn't her, it was other girls not realising that eyebrows are perhaps the least interesting part of your life. 🤷‍♂️ Should I have stopped her doing that?

Mine is same age and has them and upper lip threaded or uses some veet on upper lip. It’s less than £10 and is just a tidy up. I have no issue with it at all

@BackforGood with regards to "as nature intended" does your DD get her hair cut? Does she brush her teeth? Does she wear deodorant?

I'm not trying to be arsey but I'm wondering if there's only certain aspects of your DD's appearance that are as nature intended or she really doesn't do any of the above.

Do you know what annoys me most about these threads? Posters who infer that their children (and parenting) are better than others because their children do a thing, or don't do it.

I'm sure the teenagers are all great, whether they choose to pluck their eyebrows or not. It's bloody wonderful that we live in a society that gives these girls a choice. It's not a case of 'my child is coolest because they pluck or not' they're just different. Doesn't make them better or worse.

I don't wear any make-up, but do like to keep my brows neatish. I get mine shaped every once in a while (threading or waxing,) then tweeze out any strays that appear in between times. Costs me a fiver and a bit of time once in a while.

My dd (15) isn't into hair or make up but does like to occasionally get her eyebrows shaped. She sporadically shaves legs and pits too. It depends how lazy she is feeling as to how often she does them

Totally agree @NerrSnerr, I don't normally get worked but at threads but these type really annoy me.
It's nothing to do with whether DD's put emphasis on their appearance or not, it's the parents who this they are superior for making out their DD's aren't interested. Everyone is different and have different priorities.
Letting your DD get her eyebrows waxed does not mean you have failed as a parent ffs!

I pluck mine and if my DD wanted to style hers then I'd have no problems with that. At the moment she's not bothered. She's 12.
Parenting isn't shelling out kids in your own image. They have to be able to make their own decisions and create their own values.
If that means having ridiculous eyebrows for a few years so be it.

I took my dd to a brow bar in Debenhams, where they threaded them and they looked fantastic, since then she’s maintained it herself. We originally said she’s go again for her birthday, but she’s not needed to in the two years since having it done.
I can’t remember the cost, but it didn’t make me wince at the time.

Take her to get them shaped, blink brow bar is expensive but good or find a local recommendation
After that she can just pluck following the shape to eek the visits out a bit!
Better that than going mental with the plucking to even it up, like we have all done!

I wish I'd got mine done professionally when younger as I plucked mine into oblivion for years. Was in my 30s when I first got them waxed in a salon. Took months to grow them to have enough to work with and even now 1 is a bit sparse. Some hairs have grown in white too so I also get them tinted

My DD(13) gets hers waxed a couple of times a year and tries to maintain the shape herself in between. She has lots of very dark hair and is very self conscious about it. I've been taking her to get her legs waxed since she was 12 which is entirely her own choice.

I'd see it as a failure if my barely teenage daughter was aware of body image

No experience of kids at all then?

OP could you show her how to get rid of her mono brow and then see if she's just happy with that? That might be all she wants.

I wish my mum had helped me with my brows,I have brows that are fashionable now but back in the 80s it was awful as everyone has thin brows and I also a mono brow. I used to pluck them with my nails as my mum refused to let me have a pair of tweezers. I'm sure she saw it as a failing on her part too but strangely I was still able to live my life to the full even if I used tweezers

I think threading would be better than waxing. It gives a more precise finish.

I pay £13 for an eyebrow wax and tint and I feel amazing after they've been done.

When DD is of an age where she's aware of such things, then I'll have no problem doing the same for her. Those who say that's 'failed parenting' clearly don't understand the pressures that some teenage girls feel at school - god forbid if your child feels this and then isn't allowed to shave or have their eyebrows done.

Henny - OP asked about what our own dds do. I was answering that. My dds are currently 20 and 17. Obviously I know lots of other teenage girls too, but was answering the question about my dds, as asked. There are lots of teenage girls in this world, not one type, so I was sharing that..... as you seem to suggest I should be in the text of your post.

Thanks everyone for your replies. Can I just state the point that I was not saying what is "normal or cool ". I was saying it from the perspective of teenagers as we have all been there and know what school can be like. I have before helped my daughter with the few that grow on her monobrow and she does keep that up,she has her own tweezers. I'm not pushing her to do anything. My eyebrows are far to thin as I went a bit years ago and they don't seem to want to grow back anytime soon. Like another person said some of mine are white 😂

@BackforGood thanks for your reply. Like I said I was simply asking what other people's teenage daughters do. Some people can take any post and switch it around to sound narky. You only had to read on or if your daughter doesn't do anything then just say that. Rather than "leave them be etc". It's not like I've said right I'm taking my daughter to get her eyebrows done as they are bushy and need tidying. She has mentioned it a couple of times which is why I asked for advice. Thanks again 😊.