Hi
This ties in with my previous posts but wasn't sure how to link them but I'm single mum of one son, always been hard work. To summarise he started a foundation year at uni last Sep because his college results werent good enough to go straight onto a degree. He has never really worked despite me nagging him since he was 17 to look for part time work. I bailed him financially last November when he had spent his loan and overdraft, I couldn't afford to do this and left myself in a difficult position. Anyway, he has failed the foundation year because he didn't go to uni or do any assignments. He signed a contract for a house share starting this September so has decided to retake the foundation year or uni have said he can catch up over summer but I don;t know if he is doing this. He came home in April and I'm really struggling, he doesn't think he should work, he was living off the final installment of his student loan so I haven't given him any money but I have been buying food. He is up all night on XBox and sleeps all day. We have been arguing a lot and my main worry is that at least 5/6 days out of 7 he orders takeaways to be delivered and they cost up to £16 per time! I have found out that his girlfriend who is currently in Belfast (we are in Lancashire) is paying for most of these takeaways, she is also a student but works in a restaurant. On at least 3 occasions I have come home from work cooked a meal and he hasn't eaten it but orders a takeaway late at night instead. The other week he threw the whole plate of food in the bin and lied to me about it. Last night I was woken at 3am by a takeaway delivery. We are not speaking but I sent him a message telling him that I won't be cooking anymore as there is no point. I'm so worried about his future he is lazy, terrible with money and has no idea about real life. I blame myself but at the same time I would ideally like him to move out but he has nowhere to go. He doesn't see his dad and we have no other family. My friends say he takes advantage of me and uses me as although I haven't given him money recently he goes out every Sat night and knows he is keeping me up til past midnight before he goes out then wakes me again at 6/7am when he returns but last week he had the nerve to call me at 6.30 to ask me to go and pick him up. I refused but am so angry and hurt at his lack of consideration. I work full time and he knows I don't sleep well. I guess I'm just sounding off and looking for thoughts on what other people would do. Is there such a thing as an addiction to takeaways?