Out and about

[littlebillie]

Can I just ask what age you let you teen go out and not feel worried/ responsible for where they were.

11 I'd say when they started secondary

Do you mean day time, night time, alone, with friends??

10/11. But we live in a small town.

Too broad a question really.
To some extent, as a parent, you always worry. But you are worrying because they haven't come back on time, or because of some other concern.
I wouldn't be worried about a pre -teen 'going out on their ow' if that was a trip to the local shop or to drop their books in at the local library, or to get to school and back etc etc etc, but I would still worry about a 19 yr old driving in stormy weather or doing a dangerous / high risk sport.

When I was a young kid we had boundaries for playing out (only up to this road or that road). Some people still set the geographic boundaries. Then you slowly expand them as the kid gets older.

DS is 11yo & I would be fine if he went to other side of town by self (2 miles away, small market town). I would expect him to tell me where & when he'll be back, etc.

I know local people whose kids recently were out & about on own around our small town from age 8 or maybe younger.

If you mean teens going out & not sure when they'll be back or where they are at all times, including to the city, and feeling ok about that, mine haven't wanted to do that kind of thing until 17yo. I see other people's kids doing same things, having same level of freedom, from age 12+.

Age 11 out and about with friends. Daytime only. Now 13 and often out, always with friends and daytime only still.

What age do you not worry where/how they are???

I'd say probably 100.

What age do you not worry where/how they are???

I'd say probably 100

Sounds about right!

Well, my DF will be 90 next year, and he is currently worrying about what route I will drive when going to a wedding next weekend...

Each new phase comes with new worries.
So at 10/11 they start going around locally. You worry to start with and then after a few times you relax.
Then they start getting public transport to town. You worry to start with and then after a few times you relax.
Then they go to nearest city. …
Then they start driving ….
Then they go away on holiday ...

13/14/15 out at night really.

DD is 15 and I'm not comfortable her going out at night unless I know exactly where she is.