What to do ?

[Monica53]

Our 18yr old is days away from starting A levels and stressed as many are? However stating they aren't going to take them? We've suggested they speak to someone at College to talk this over as many students will.be feeling similar? Also they have a conditional offer at Uni for September? Which they've also said they don't want to do? Stress? I'm putting it down to, also good that they are voicing it. However we've not said this bit what will they do? Where is the careers service etc..as apprenticeship? not sure! They glided through GCSEs though this is a whole new kettle.of fish! We're there to support though it's their choice/future and over holiday very little revision has been done?

Need to give them space to find own way forward. Have faith you raised a good kid who will find a productive future.

If they've done all the work for A levels, I'd try to get them to take the exams (maybe on a 1 day at a time approach), but with absolute reassurance they don't need to go to uni even if the get straight A*s. Say you can talk about options after A levels, but having put in the work for 2 years they might as well finish them, they've nothing to lose.

(But not worth a breakdown over. So depends whether it is stress or serious mental health issues.)

Get them to do a level all that work for nothing tell them you are proud no matter what the results. How many a levels l. Tell them they can change their mind about uni offer take a year out from study but just get the a level out of way and take their time making the next decision. Good luck

Hi
Have said can take a year out etc.. also other jobs in medical field. They stated content deadend job! Ignored that! ...three weeks of this. Bring on G&T for me

Well 4am and just home from hospital.
Made themselves ill due to stress and hysterics!! Mad isn't it?...we are seriously concerned if they're like this with A levels will they cope with Uni exams and more independent study etc?? I'm concerned?!

Don't worry about uni now. As you agreed they don't have to go now. You mentioned medicine - do you have a high achieving child who has put themselves under immense pressure. Uni really doesn't have to happen. Plenty of people get through life without going. And millions go later in life - when they are ready. Just deal with today ....call school in the morning. Speak to the pastoral team. They will be able to give you an idea if these concerns are warranted or not and will help you through this crisis. Just love your child as I'm sure you are. Don't worry about tomorrow/next week/next year.

Sorry your DC is finding A levels so very stressful. I agree with the suggestion of contacting the college this morning and discussing exactly how distressed your DC has become.
It would be a huge shame to have worked so hard for 2 years and then not take the exams, but the reality is your DC might not be well enough to take them this year.
My DD is also on the middle of A levels, and she struggled very much with stress and anxiety during her GCSEs so I understand a little of how you’re feeling. Thankfully DD has now got lots of support in place and is coping much better.