This is my first post - it's a long one! I’m at my wits end with my 15 yerar old Son. Where do I start?! He lives with me and my Husband full time and see’s his dad sometimes. He has an older sister and two step brothers. He hasn’t the easiest of childhoods when he was younger and has a difficult relationship with his father who has mental health problems. The divorce was very messy and nasty (not from my part) his father remarried very quickly and had another child which he doesn’t see (as the mother won’t allow it) as they are now divorced, so my son also has a half brother who he sees occasionally. Just this is a lot to deal with at such a young age. I had a very stable upbringing and my parents have been married for 50+ years so I can’t begin to imagine how he must feel about all of this. What I’m struggling with is his attitude and what I’d like to know if this is normal teen behaviour. My daughter (18) was and still is really well behaved and I don’t like to compare them as they are individuals. He is rude, snappy, won’t do as he’s told, lies to me, speaks to me in an appalling manner, won’t wash or shower without being promoted because he smells. He’s packing for a trip today and I’ve asked him to pack a towel and he says he doesn’t need one as he’s not going to wash! He has anger issues and has broken a TV, thrown his Xbox controllers across his room and in the end he sold his Xbox as it was causing so many problems. He was saving for a Nintendo switch but 2 weeks ago because I wouldn’t extend his screen time he smashed the screen on MacBook so I made him use his savings to pay for the repair as he needs it for school/homework. He’s lazy at school and rarely does any homework. He recently had his mocks and did next to no revision (told me he had) He is so bright but I don’t think he’ll do well in his exams next year because he just can’t be bothered. I am fairly strict and limit the amount of time he spends on devices and he hates it. He doesn’t have a lot of friends. He’s told me he likes his own company. I’ve painted a really negative picture of him but he does also have another side which is funny and very loving. He has a great sense of humour which we share. I love him so much but he causes me so much heartache. Because I parent him on my own I try to strike a balance between being light and fun but when he’s like he is I’m on at him all the time and it’s exhausting. I’ve tried to talk to him about so many times and he tells me he gets it, he’s sorry and how much he loves me. The reason I’m asking is because my husband (his stepdad) has told me today how much he dislikes my son and the way he treats me. I’ve said I think it’s normal teen behaviour and my husband has told me it isn’t. Any advice?