My teenager is throwing a tantrum and so far it's lasted 4 hours

[MrsPinkCup]

Because she is grounded for the weekend.
This is a full on laying on the floor, throwing cushions and screaming so people walking past the house are stopping to look.

How much longer can she go on for ?
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Id be concerned how to support her. Shes obviously not managing her big feelings and the situation. But im not into shaming and would rather help her develop and cope personally.

Im shocked at some of these threads.film her!?!? Really!?!? Would you like it if your partner filmed you when you were upset!?

That is not normal.

She’s be grounded additionally for the ridiculous behaviour post original grounding

It wasn't constant screaming it was raging about how unfair I was and how much she hated me and how no one else's mum
Is such a cow.
Then bouts of crying, screaming and wailing.
Following me about shouting at me then occasionally stamping her foot.
It's a one off I'm not too worried maybe she will stop telling me to fuck off now.

I've not shamed her a few others said to film her a post it to social media which I would never do.
I was tempted to film her and show her afterwards when she had calmed down, just so she could see how horrible it was.
I agree she is stressed at the moment she's working very hard with her exams and had had a rough week which is why as a treat I gave her some extra money. I didn't even mind that they messed up the times of the buses and were late or that I had to pay for a taxi, I minded the swearing and sneering and bad attitude I got when she got out of the taxi and telling me to fuck off in front of her friend.

I was the first person who said record her, I never said a word about putting it on social media - I don't agree with putting anything on social media be it good or bad.

4 hours
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When are you going to tell her to stop? Or tell her to leave you alone/come back when she can be civil?

Why haven't you stopped this?

Please don’t film her, if she knows your doing it, it will set her off again.

You’re doing the right thing by completely ignoring her.

*you’re

How is she today, OP? Is there an opportunity for repair?

Lol at the people assuming she has SN because she is having a teenage shitfit

Hope you held strong op. As when they were toddlers, and preteens, "this too shall pass"

Hoping for a peaceful day for you.

Alexashutup has obviously never parented a teenager or has perfect children. I empathise OP. My teenage son is in the middle of exams and had a meltdown this week. I could not believe the words that came out of his mouth. It was like a scene from the Exorcist and all the anger was directed at me. I only asked him to do some revision! ( he has no special needs)
The following day he was back to normal. Hang in there OP.

I hope your morning is calmer OP.
It is a horrible, stressful time for year 11s paired with just being a teen. Sounds like a culmination of everything but still horrible for you.
Sometimes they just get themselves into such a hole they can't get back out, no matter how much you try to help them
I can only suggest trying to talk to her when she's calm. Try a little love bombing if you can bear it.

Excellent. Shows some really positive attributes - a strong determination and resilience coupled with respect for your authority.

I hope things are a little calmer today OP. As others have said, this is an increadibly stressful time for your child and in turn the whole family unfortunately.
Our son went from a being mild mannered easy going chap to the most horrendous mood swings and unrecognisable behaviour.
Try to approach her during a period of calmness to discuss her behaviour and how she can manage her stress.
You will get through this, trust me

Yes she is going through a stressful time maybe she has pmt thrown in but that is no excuse for that behaviour.

I would sit her down today and ask exactly wtf that was all about and what she hoped to achieve with her tantrum.
Make her understand that it is unacceptable and I would extend the grounding for another week for the tantrum.

I have two teens one with sen who has done gcses and one without currently going through them.

Thanks for all the replies.
All is calm this morning she took herself off to bed with the dog and is still asleep.
PP posters are right in saying it's out of character and this mood has only started since exams started.
As for the person who asked why I hadn't simply told her to stop, thanks I didn't think of that yesterday 🤦🏻‍♀️ silly me.

"Why haven't you stopped this"!! Really!! - how do you suggest the OP does that, out of interest?

Sounds very wearing OP, but on the plus side, at least she's listening to you - one of mine would have just walked out the house at that age if I tried to ground her.

Hope today is calmer …. exams will be soon be over, it's a stressful time.

I might have a chat with her today about it. Something low key like "so what was that all about yesterday?", said very neutrally. Gives you the chance to find out why she reacted as she did (stress, hormones, etc), to point out that you'd helped her out of a tricky situation and to give her the chance to think about how she could react differently next time.