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A level - stress!!

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Monica53 · 19/05/2019 21:42

Hi
Our Dd A levels start in full swing from tomorrow! and what a stressful day - tears and everything in between! She is sure she is going to fail and therefore going to defer her Uni place! Says she has no idea what she'll do and she know from her mock papers she'll fail...Yes anxiety and stress! as expected- here to support her though this is awful for them. Anyone out there in same boat. Thank you x

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eddiestanleys · 19/05/2019 22:13

I've got one too, not said much but I know he's feeling it. Needs AAB but I keep telling him that he has many options open to him whatever happens. Don't want him to think he's a failure if he doesn't get it.

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Monica53 · 19/05/2019 22:23

Hi
Thank you- yep told Dd that there is always alternative though not listening . Needs BBC for her course! Though talking about deferring place already! Nothing I do or say is right or it's wrong or making it worse so.keeping quiet! Omg! This is terrible! ..

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middleeasternpromise · 20/05/2019 07:43

It's unbearable isn't it. Feel like someone crept in and decorated the house with eggshells. Controlling negative thinking is a big part of the problem but I'm keeping quiet - my pearls of wisdom land like grenades. Roll on July

Madhairday · 20/05/2019 10:09

Yes, DD starts today and is stressed and sure she'll fail. Feel stressed for her, it's a horrible time. Will be glad when they are over.

All we can do is be there and keep encouraging and assuring.

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Monica53 · 20/05/2019 16:32

Hi there
Today Dd still stressing! Still wanting to defer Uni!? Nerves I putting it down to?..wish exams where over with! It's a nightmare and feel awful for them x

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eddiestanleys · 20/05/2019 16:52

Ds just got in, had Psychology today and said it was a good paper 👍🏻. Fingers crossed for the rest,

pasanda · 20/05/2019 17:39

DS just got in, had Psychology today and said it was a hard paper !! Shock

Ran out of time on the last question. Needs AAB.

Oh well, at least one down 8 to go!

middleeasternpromise · 20/05/2019 18:45

DD said similar about psychology - paper OK but not enough time Hmm

its going to be a long 5 weeks .....

Puzzledmum · 22/05/2019 07:25

My DD started yesterday with History. The day before we also had tears etc Thankfully the next exams are after half term so there are two weeks in between!

Madhairday · 22/05/2019 07:27

DD also had psychology on Monday, she said it was okay but she made some mistakes and only just finished without a chance to check.

Still, that's the first over. None for two weeks now.

Good luck to all yours!

Catsmother1 · 22/05/2019 17:08

My son was in this position last year. Needed bbc for psychology. Came out of the first paper in tears. Cried for hours and said he knew he’d failed. It was heartbreaking. Over the next couple of weeks he decided psychology was too difficult. He rejected his places and decided on a different degree course. He visited more unis in June/July and then contacted one he was interested in (they had a ‘pre-clearing’ phone line. They unofficially offered him a place and they turned it into an official offer on results day. He eventually got ccc - which was good enough for his new course. And he’s enjoying it. Has it’s ups and downs and it isn’t easy, but I think he made the right decision.

noblegiraffe · 22/05/2019 17:23

If they’re really stressed about making grades, remind them that it’s a really low birth year this year and unis are going to be desperate for bums on seats. Even if they miss their offer they may get their place and if not, there will be other options.

middleeasternpromise · 22/05/2019 18:43

There's also a BREXIT panic as Universities can usually rely on a steady stream of overseas students but the uncertainty of the B situation is also having a detrimental effect. Sometimes we just have to be silent supporters when words don't land as we would wish them to. Alevels are just another of life's right of passage experiences. They will learn something useful from the experience - at the very least, how to live through stress.

Tiredtimster · 24/05/2019 23:34

Oh it's the same here! She needs AAB but uni are offering BBC as she made them firm choice. We've had core maths and psychology so far. The whole house is stressed and we can't even talk to her without some backlash!

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