Relationship deteriorating and I don’t know what to do.

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My ds is now nearly 16.
From being tiny his behaviour has been very challenging.
Now behaviour includes the following:
Chewing/biting things so collars of t shirts, my sofa cushions, coat edges, I find pieces of chewed plastic all over the house just thrown like the house is a rubbish tip.
Shouting out for no apparent reason.
Banging everywhere he goes, banging or tapping his hand/feet/knees against things.
He is vile and argumentative with his little brother.
Constantly on report or in detention for “low level disruption “ is doing gcse s at the moment.
Doesn’t and has never been able to concentrate or focus on anything.

Worryingly though he is withdrawn and a very closed book. Has spoken about possible suicidal thoughts.

Dh who is usually fantastic with him is loosing patience with him which is unheard of but that’s how bad it’s got.

He won’t speak to us about things so it’s so so difficult.

What can I do and what am I missing with him?

Some similarities to my son who has autism . Hope you get some answers OP.

Thanks all.
I think we have completely missed the boat with school as he leaves in about 3 weeks.
Things are better as the end of school gets nearer. He is happier, I would even say excited about what is to come. He has been accepted on a highly competitive apprenticeship starting after the summer with great prospects and good pay. It’s very hands on and practical which he is a master of.

He is going out with a friend more and is interested in clothes for the first time ever.
He is exercising more, out on his bike/scooter/walking to and from school.
School is the source of his misery. Square peg in a round hole has always been my description.

I’m just watching him as he is like a different kid over the last month or so.

Fab update. That sounds good news Crosser. Can you tell me about how you found the apprenticeship? That sounds just the thing for my DS when he leaves next year?

Funnily enough it was an advert on face book to say that they were recruiting.
He did the application himself and I sighed and checked it and I’m not kidding, it was bloody brilliant!
They asked him to go to an interview with 2 days notice so it was s mad scramble for a shirt and tie and a haircut. He was offered a place the following week. They said that they had received over 200 applicants with a limited number of places.
I still can’t believe it!
He was beaming ear to ear.
His life can now begin

That’s excellent; I hope he enjoys it and gets on well. I’m sure my DS will be much improved when he doesn’t have to suffer school any more. We went away this week and he was actually laughing and joking with me. Completely different character when school not involved