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Neighbours’s 15yo has boy in her bedroom

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BillywilliamV · 13/05/2019 12:53

Both parents at work. She’s meant to be studying for her GCSE’s, a boy turned up at 9ish this morning and has been in the house ever since. Her bedroom window is open and they’re definitely not studying! Should I mind my own business or tell her mother? (I’m not deliberately listening but I’m gardening so outside)

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Eminybob · 13/05/2019 12:55

MYOB!

ILoveMaxiBondi · 13/05/2019 12:55

Mind your own business unless you think she is being abused/coerced into sex?

Prequelle · 13/05/2019 12:57

You sound creepy

IHaveBrilloHair · 13/05/2019 12:57

Ewww, mind your own

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BillywilliamV · 13/05/2019 12:58

Cool, genuinely interested in people’s opinions. My impulse is to just leave it I’ll admit, just not entirely convinced it’s the adult, responsible thing to do.

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TeaForTheWin · 13/05/2019 12:59

Lol, i'd have fun with it, pull a car up into her driveway so they think it's mum coming home. Or shout a warning 'hey, yer mams on her way!' watch how fast he scarpers out of there half dressed xD but then again im just jealous a 15 year old is getting more action than I am. Leave them be, lifes short!

PortiaCastis · 13/05/2019 12:59

MYOB and how do you know the age of the boy

IHaveBrilloHair · 13/05/2019 12:59

I'd have thought you a creepy weirdo if you'd told me this when Dd was 15.

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BillywilliamV · 13/05/2019 13:01

I’m not creepy, this is my friends child I’m talking about, I’ve known her since she was three years old, if the consensus is to leave alone then I will leave alone but that doesn’t mean I am comfortable with it.

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TheLazyDuchess · 13/05/2019 13:02

Agreed non of your business...

Original poster
BillywilliamV · 13/05/2019 13:02

I have asked and you have answered, thank you!

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SoupDragon · 13/05/2019 13:05

how do you know the age of the boy

No one has mentioned the age of the boy.

SoupDragon · 13/05/2019 13:06

Next time you see the girl, suggest she closes her window when studying.

But perhaps not really!

helpmum2003 · 13/05/2019 13:07

I think it's a very difficult situation if it's a child you've known that long...For starters I'd call round at the house on some pretext; just so child knows you know.... And take it from there. If it was my DD I'd definitely want to know.....

PortiaCastis · 13/05/2019 13:09

The age of the boy is in the thread title Soup

NunoGoncalves · 13/05/2019 13:09

If your neighbour is a friend, I'd mention it. Just like I'd mention it to any friend.

If your neighbour is not really a friend, I'd mind my own business, just as I'd mind my own business regarding the kids of any vague acquaintance/stranger.

NunoGoncalves · 13/05/2019 13:10

The age of the boy is in the thread title Soup

You might want to re-read the title.

AlexaShutUp · 13/05/2019 13:11

The age of the boy is in the thread title Soup

No, it isn't.

PortiaCastis · 13/05/2019 13:12

Ok apologies I was wrong

overnightangel · 13/05/2019 13:14

Shout encouragement thru the wall

specterlitt · 13/05/2019 13:25

If the neighbour is your friend, like an actual friend who you share things with and vice versa, I would mention it. Otherwise, I would seriously mind my own business, you do not know whether her parents are aware or know this boy and so on.

Spotsandstars · 13/05/2019 13:41

Age of consent is 16. So yeah I'd mention it to your neighbour in a casual way.

stucknoue · 13/05/2019 13:56

Unless he looks like a full grown adult man (over 18) I would not say anything, the parents may well know or suspect. We certainly knew what dd was up to however much she thought she was deceiving us, parents have a 6th sense!

Amortentia · 13/05/2019 14:04

MYOB.

This reminds me of when I was a teen and my very ‘observant’ neighbour came round to tell my mum I was sneaking a boy in to the house. We had lived there for about 2 years and some how this nosy Parker had completely failed to notice I had a brother 🤣.

stephstrops · 13/05/2019 14:06

I have a 15 year old daughter and i’d definitely want to know