How much freedom does your 16 year old get

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I know this has probably been asked before but what time does your 16 yr old DC stay out till?

Where are they allowed to go? Do you always know where they are?

At the moment I'm on him like a tonne of bricks with GCSE's starting on Monday!

I generally know where abouts he is, but as that's either at school, with his girlfriend, at work or at home it's not an issue. I don't know where he is when he is at his dad's as he is in the care of his other parent, but it will be much the same.

I have a 17 year old.

If I have to pick her up if she's at a party, then it is determined by how late I want to stay up. Generally 11.30/ 12 if I'm generous.
She may stay out a bit later if her brother picks her up, but not by much.
She does tell me where she is.

Tbh, she doesn't go out much because she works early in the morning and she would rather get the sleep.
Her social life tends to consist of hanging out with her bf, or planned social events like dinner/ movies with her friends

My dd 15 will be 16 in July no later than 9 the odd school night and 11 at weekend unless at a party which are starting from now on so prob be later

I've a 17yr old, she can go wherever she wants and has no curfew, so long as she tells me where she's going and when to expect her home.
Today for example, she's going to her boyfriend's in Glasgow and will be home around midnight.
They may go out, just to mooch around the West end, or go to the botanic gardens since it's a nice day.

Mine does do generally what she wants as well, but it's all regular stuff- movies, on the train to go shopping at the nearest centre.

She's pretty laud back, isn't a big partier and has a lovely group of friends.
If she was constantly getting pissed then I would possibly be a bit more restrictive.

Oh of course.
She's not getting pissed/hanging around the streets etc so it's fine.
Her friends/BF are all lovely too.
Her boyfriend's Mum keeps him on a much tighter leash, which I don't understand tbh, he's a good kid, he's a school year younger than Dd but only actually 4 months age wise.
Dd has done the get ridiculously drunk thing, twice,* both times came home and I sorted her out, didn't punish, just talked to her.
Her BF wouldn't dare go home in that situation.

*Once at 15, once at 17 so not close together, very much idiotic one offs.

Pretty free to do whatever - as long as schoolwork is getting done.
She’s a sensible girl but can be a bit lax at timekeeping - ‘can you pick me up?’ at 11pm when I’m already in bed (thinking she’s sorted a lift). I made her get a lift that time.
If she was partying every weekend she’d have more of a curfew and restrictions as would have to be fit on Sunday to study.
She has the odd drink but never been totally hammered.
No boyfriend yet to my knowledge- which does make life a bit easier too.

Generally have a good idea where she is and we don’t have any hard and fast rules about home times - we talk about what’s reasonable in the circumstances - I’m trying to get her to assess risks etc. A parent may offer a lift home or the kids will take an Uber. She’s pretty sensible so no need for a heavy hand.

When ds was 16 he was home for 9.30/10. He’s 17 now and I ask that if he’s out with friends he’s home for me going to bed which is 11/11.30pm. On special occasions like a birthday party or a school dance I’ve picked him up approx 1.30 but I don’t like him walking home at that time.

I encourage mine not to hang about the street so they normally go to a friends or the snooker club, I’d say that I know where he is 95%of the time .

Home by 10 at the latest on school nights, not fussed about weekends as DDs will pick him up from wherever he is. DD2 finishes work late most nights (1/2am) so she’ll usually pick him up on her way home

10 on a school night.Have never really had to give a time limit at the weekend because they always seem/ed to be home around 11ish (12 latest) of their own accord. They mostly just go hang out at friends houses and play on xbox etc.