Constant loud music be played by my teenage daughter.

[NadeFC]

Hi.. just after some advise please guys..
My 14 year old daughter plays her music so loud I can barely hear anything else.
I love music too and I'm happy to let her have it loud as I know it helps with her anxiety and stress.
Just sometimes I need it lowered so I can think or watch TV and when I ask her to turn it down a little, I get screamed at.. that I'm trying to ruin her fun or I'm boring..
Any advice on how I can find a happy medium with her?
Thank you

Hi.. I don't loose control over my emotions.. I was talking about my daughter.
She goes berserk and gets so upset and angry, and for me to implement consequences only adds to an already emotional, at times, hostile situation.

She goes berserk and gets so upset and angry, and for me to implement consequences only adds to an already emotional, at times, hostile situation.

And doesn't she just know it.

Take control and stop being scared of reaction.

What do your neighbours think?

My kids listen to music with headphones. They don't like each other's music so it's the fairest way for everyone to listen to the stuff that they like.

It's very sad that you're too scared to implement very reasonable boundaries. You need to try and find a compromise with her - earphones means you don't have to listen and she won't get moaned at. She might have a better solution.

Thank you. You're right..
I'm letting her get away with unacceptable behaviour.

She's running rings round me.

Ok NadeFC so you're waking up to this which is great. It's so easy to slip into a routine of letting things pass when you are a non-confrontational person living with the opposite type!
Don't despair.
You can change this.
Do it your way, and step by step - in my opinion going in all guns blazing chucking her speakers out the window is just going to lead to more aggro and resentment so she will fight harder. Do it cleverly -
work on your relationship with her
read up about dealing with tricky teens
stay calm and don't let her trigger you
build the boundaries steadily back up.
Best of luck - you'll look back on this later and smile I swear!

Didn't we all listen to music loudly as teens? *

No, because I wasn't allowed to. Just like the child of the OP shouldn't be allowed to.