My dd, 15, has not had a good relationship with my dh for a couple of years, but now she has started saying she hates him. She is always rude to him, swears and shouts at him, or just ignores him. I am afraid he is not much better towards her. In fact, it is usually him over-reacting that starts the slanging matches. I find I am left in the middle trying to mediate between them , and I am having very little success. In fact I fear I am making things worse, because I tend to protect and defend my daughter, as the child in the relationship. She is diagnosed with ADHD, anxiety, body dismorphia and depression and is on medication. With all this to deal with, I am lenient with her, but this is interpreted by my husband as being too soft with her and letting her get away with murder. I do try to talk to her about the relationship and the triggers which set each other off, but she only then starts shouting at me and my attempts become counter-productive. In addition, I have a chronic illness which makes me too tired to be on her case the whole time. How can I bring them back together?