I feel I may have things out of proportion and would appreciate advice.
DD14 is almost 6 foot, very athletic, looks much older and is often taken for 18/19. On the whole she is well behaved and good company, likes playing outside, doing sports, cooking, cleans her room, does her school work and chores etc. But she is so bloody rude to me! Dismissive, ignored me, says I am irritating, rolls her eyes - normal teenage stuff. I told her and DS that as a reward for hard work - Ds is in gcse revision mode and been studying very hard - and good behaviour I’d take them and some friends to a local theme park on Friday. Both delighted and very good. I spoke to the friends parent on Monday night and as soon as I was off the phone - all the rudeness starts again.
I lost my temper a bit last night as she refused to come down stairs and was throwing herself about complaining we’re the worst family in the world, we are embarrassing, all we do is argue (not true), DH is a maniac who needs psychiatric help, I am a control freak who should be locked up, it was relentless. We ignored it for the most part but I did take away her iPad and phone and said “if this is how you treat me, why would I spend my day off taking you and your friends out” which made her really cross.
I am at a loss. DS has had his moments but she seems to want to cut her nose off to spite her face.
Would you take her?
Please be kind, I am exhausted, I have a disability which has flared up and and DH who’s mental heath is poor, I feel a bit anxious and would really appreciate some advice, I normally parent really confidently but don’t know what is best with this big gorgeous awkward girl.