15yr old just horrible when gaming

[Choccydoodle]

I have a 15 ye old son who is addicted to play station,he really is not very nice when he’s been playing it for hours. We have just been away and he’s been great company still phone screen addicted but not the horror that he is after hours online with his friends playing FIfa. During term time we try to ban it mon to thurs but his friends are allowed on and it inevitably causes a row about how unreasonable we are. I can’t believe that his friend are allowed to stay on fir as long as they like. Today he has been on from 3pm and aside from dinner and taking dog for a 10 min walk he has been on ever since and has just exploded that we have says midnight is cut off! What do we do - I understand today’s world is different but his school work is suffering as he rushes it and his personality at times is horrid. He used to do lots of after school activities of sport but except school sport that has vanished.

Take it off him.

You're the parent.

Who cares if he thinks you're unreasonable.

Let him on it 2 - 4 hours at the weekend, or whatever similar time you decide.

midnight is the cut off???!!!! he's 15. surely he should be in bed asleep?

Here is a clue: be his parent

Mine are 12 and 15 and are only allowed to play at weekends except for the school holidays where we have set a limit of 5 hrs per day. I have been told by other parents this is quite a lot but then in the next breath they are telling my they don’t set a limit but their child couldn’t possibly be spending more than 5 hours on it in one day!
If he’s that horrible you need to take it away from him. Maybe start with one day to begin with but if he acts up when he’s back on it then make it two more days etc?

Oh and mine are in bed by 10:30/11 in the holidays as usually one or both of us parents have to be up for work

Tbh I would have a serious calm talk with him at a time when he's not gaming. From what you say this is affecting his sleep, school performance and mental well being with his aggression and so on. Therefore you want to work with him to take steps for him to get more out of life than shouting and gaming. Work with him to set gradually increasing limits and agree with him beforehand that when you impose them you will remind him why you are doing so

These games are designed to be addictive and ime group online gaming can lead to people becoming aggressive, so he's only doing what they're designed to make him do, but it's clearly not making him happy so help him to get himself out of it.

I have just switched online gaming off. DS1 knows full well that showers have to taken before 10.30pm. He is in there now.
when he gets out and realises gaming off all hell will break out.
I don't care. His siblins are entitledto sleep, so tough.

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Smash it to pieces. Problem solved.

Tell him he is banned until he can show that he can not act like a petulant toddler when gaming.

I have done this with my own Ds, who also at 15 was a delight when playing all games bar one. The one game he did play he played with another boy from school who is a dick and so my son also acted like a dick.

I literally unplugged it mid game. I wasn't having him talk to me like that and he was banned from that game for a week, and all games for 2 days.

It worked. Be the parent, turn it off, remove the controller. If he can't handle it, he doesn't get to play it.

There will always be parents who either knowingly or unknowingly have their children playing till 4am, but he is not their child. He is yours. You set the rules. It means you care. Show him you care.