AIBU

[mumzy11960]

my dd is 16 and most of her friends stay out in a village until 11pm /12am in the summer and I've said that's completely not happening in our house. It's only a 15min drive and the majority of her friends live there. I know most of them and they are all REASONABLY safe but I know the boys smoke weed and dd does NOS quite a lot. AIBU to say that 9pm is the curfew.
Also would help a lot if you let me know any of your dd/ds freedom in the summer after gcses

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Ours has a 11pm curfew at weekends at midnight if at party... he stays out later if sleeping out at a friends which I have no issue with at all.
He’d be pretty mortified if I told him he had to be in for 9pm 🙈🙈🙈

No curfew for DS (16). I have also left him at home overnight. However he is pretty sensible. I think how you deal with this stuff has more to do with the individual than with their age. I wouldn't leave DD (15) until she's about 35, and I'm much more inclined to impose curfews etc. However, if she were involved with nitrous oxide, I'd be worrying about more than curfews.

When I was 16-18 my curfew was 10pm. So I stayed at my best friends house every weekend as her parents let her stay out till midnight. I was also hanging around in parks in town with older boys and drinking in the daytime so a curfew made no difference with that sort of thing.
My daughter is only 6 so I'm not at your stage yet, but I'd say a happy medium between my parents and my friends would be reasonable. 11pm?

11 is reasonable for a 16 year old. In two years she'll be an adult and she needs to get used to being more responsible for herself or she'll be completely unprepared.