Freedom

[mumzy11960]

How much freedom should my 16yr old (gcse year) have?
How much do yours have?

She's a v small 5"3 girl btw x

In all honesty a 16 year old should be treated as though they are an adult.

I'm 5'3 and don't regard that as very small!!

No they're not adult at 16. But they're working towards it, so I usually allow my DD to do most things she asks to. She's allowed to parties, makes her own way home, goes out and about in the daytime without me always knowing exactly where she is.

I expect her to be home in the evening at whatever time she said she would be (or to text if she's delayed for some reason) I expect her to be home for mealtimes and generally to let me know if she's going to be late for some reason. In terms of personal safety out in the evenings I think they're not really any more at risk than a woman of any age really, though they might be more naive. So I talk though risks, choosing the safest route home, dressing appropriately, etc

Why on earth does her height have to do with anything? It sounds like your saying she's still a child.
At 16 you need to allow quite a lot of freedom, starting in increments from y6, walking home alone, going to friends, sleepovers etc, once at secondary school it's going to town or for a meal/ snack with friends - have you done any of this?
Teenagers are always contactable by phone these days and you can lay ground rules if you are uncomfortable but you really do have to let go and it's not always easy

My rules have always been that I would want to know where he was going and roughly who he was with. The most important one was how he was getting home. He's a year older than your daughter.
He's always been happy with that, I don't restrict his activities unless it's a school night.

As long as you know where she is and you're happy with where and who, then she can do what she wants surely.

Although if she were 5'6 then you would of course also let her go to clubs

Her height is irrelevant. What’s hugely relevant is what she’s like as a person (how reliable is she) and what life experience does she have (lives in a city or never been outside your tiny village?)

At 16 and 5'4 I was traveling around the UK during the summer holidays to do my hobby. By 17 I was hundreds of miles from home at Uni.
I get that you cannot just stop worrying about your dc but unless she has done something that leads you not to trust her I wouldn't try and restrict her.
I would expect her to keep you updated about her whereabouts and if she needed feeding.
If you run into problems you can respond with more guidelines for her. Is she generally sensible and trustworthy?

I always ask, freedom from what?
If you mean spare time when it's how much she has left when her work is done surely. Then weekends the same, as long as homework is completed there time should be their own.
Mine is 15 and I haven't a clue what she's doing most of the time she is out, I have to trust her. I'm lucky she is a boarder and her curfew is early evening and several sign in throughout the day.
I trust her to travel up and down the country to visit friends.
I'm lucky we don't have to worry about alcohol, sex, drugs, smoking etc as they get excluded and she loves her school.

You need to explain what you mean by 'freedom'

and also what her height has to do with anything