17th Bday party. HELP!!

[mumzy11960]

My Dd (age 16) has asked for a house party in August as her 17th is in November and doesn't want a party in the cold! I'm not sure if I want one in the house as we would have just got a band new extension. Another thing is my dds friends are all awful when drunk. She's not too bad but the majority are boys and the girls are very popular so worried there would be people from the year above. any ideas about the location for the party and if I should provide drinks etc.. and what to do about drugs as I know that's they all do balloons (laughing gas) and smoke weed.

50, goodness that’s brave.

@Comefromaway
Really I thought that was small!!

50! I would allow 20 and no more. You cannot control 50 teenagers. No way.

Porta loo is a very good call!

With it being as many as 50, I'd worry you will get many gate crashes...would it be possible to actually let them in on the door with a list of names of those invited (this is common practice in these parts) even a rumour that parents will be checking everyone allowed in has been invited would deter and gatecrashers.

10-12 is small. 20-25 is big. 50 is out of control.

Thinking of doing wristbands that they get if they are on the list

Oh mistake.
Your dd sounds like me at 16 (I'm now late 20s). I was allowed a house party, at my parents lovely home. 40 was the limit. Every teenager from the north London area turned up! The house was packed. Multiple teens were sick in the the house and garden (or pavement on the way out). Brand new kitchen was trashed and a window was smashed by a gatectasher who was not allowed in. Part of the fence was pulled down by other gatecrashers trying to get in. It was awful. My poor parents (who were out, only returning at midnight for the main chaos). Fag buts and beer cans kept turning up in the garden for many weeks. The whole thing was very stressful for me I didn't enjoy any of it and felt guilty afterwards.
Needless to say, my 18th was held in a pub function room and kept fairly low key!

I’d say 30, 2 portaloos.

Block off the rest of the house so there’s no sneaking upstairs.

Mine have parties but i’m always here. I get pizzas in and plenty of soft drinks. It’s shocking how much alcohol they can bring, even underage.

Let her have 15 max and borrow a friend or a friend's husband who is big and burly for door duty - anyone not on the list is not allowed in.

I've had 3 teen parties.

We live on a farm in an old farmhouse with a games room type thing at the end with nothing really in it. Surrounded by fields.

They even managed to cause chaos in this type of set up!

We've had another in a village hall with over £300 of damage by the end of it.

Weed, fags, nos, mdma and copious amounts of booze, including spirits at the last one - which was by far the worst party we've had.

NEVER AGAIN!

The trouble I've found is that most teens when drunk, in the heady party atmosphere with drum and bass banging away, where THEIR parents aren't around, have absolutely no respect for your home. None at all.

If you go ahead, I wish you luck.

(And these were year 9/10 parties so 14/15 yo! )