Silly girlls

[daffodilbrain]

There's a group of girls (all 13) who used to be at school with my son I'm friendly with the mums in differing capacities but we've know each other since they were at pre school. One of the girls came over to ours and the mum commented that the girl didn't want her friend to know she was at ours as the other friend didn't like my son. Separately,, Another of the girls is in massive trouble for causing a younger child to cry by calling him names and now he's worried he'll be picked on when he moves to senior school. The girls excuse was that she thought it was ok as said girl and friends thought it was my son. The mum told me this and laughed it off. I'm a bit niggled by all this. Do I ignore it as girls being girls or do I mention something ? DS not bothered about these girls it's just me. But when one of mums goes on about how they're all such good friends and get on so well I can't help thinking they aren't quite the little ladies the mother thinks they are . Hope that makes sense!

Silly girls? Girls being girls?

I wouldn't want my daughters anywhere near you TBH.

Why ?

As a mum to an almost teen girl I completely understand. There's a lot of silliness, bitching and fibbing with groups of girls. Far more than with boys (generally speaking).
We're not even at 13 and we've had the lying about which friend they're with because another doesn't like her, we've had a "Wendy" pushing one girl out of a group and we've had plenty of backstabbing and girls running away and ditching others even though they were best friends the day before. It is silliness but I'm afraid that's just how things are. Keep your kids away from clear trouble makers (I'm talking as I types) if possible but other than that, let em get on with it.

You seem to have quite a misogynistic blanket view of teenage girls.

Not my intention to be misogynistic, that's a very strong word and I certainly don't hate anyone. It's just the way I've phrased things.

I guess I'm coloured by my own experiences of what some teenage girls were like at school and I cant bear my DC or anyone's to suffer. I'm just being a precious mum over her DS In the middle of the night. All I was looking for was some perspective

Well my perspective is it's better to ditch the gender stereotypes (which in this case you're suggesting should be used to excuse girls' bullying anyway), which just muddies the issue.

I'd be talking to your son about the elements of healthy friendships. But it sounds as though this is just as much about your friendships with the mothers as his genuine friendships with the girls involve anyway, so let those drift.